Is it normal to still want my ex?

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Me and my ex broke up about 3 weeks ago. And for that time ive been in the prosess of getting over him. I go places and i do flirt with other guys. But at the end of the day i really miss him. My bestfriend is also his friend and hes been a pal helping me reminis but not dwell on this stuff... So yesterday we talked and he said that he misses me a whole lot and to top off the convo he said he stil loved me. But as a person and not girlfriend. And then today, we talked again and he said the only thing he wanted to do was mess around but this time, he said he loved me as a girlfriend. Be aware he dosnt want to go out with me. My question is, is it normal to still want to do stuff, even if its not official, with him? And if so what should i do?? Thank you!!

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  • StrangeQuestion
    13 years ago

    WARNING

    It is normal but not advisable. If he meets someone else he likes, or you do, and get intimate....it will be a slippery slope to pain

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  • AnantaX
    13 years ago

    I pretty much have the same exact situation. I feel that it is normal.

    Like the other person said, don't mess around with him if he doesn't want to be with you because you will develop stronger feelings for him and you will get jealous when he does hang around/get with someone else, only the jealousy will be worse. I know because I get pretty jealous sadly. I feel weird around her and sometimes I'm in denial that we broke up, but it's the truth. I'm trying to move on because I'm pretty sure I won't get back together with her since it would be a bit strange and awkward (we had a session where she didn't talk to me.)

    So I just think since he doesn't want to get together with you, I don't think you should mess around. I think you should continue the friendship though and stay friends, like I stayed friends. It feels good to talk a bit more and just hang around with our group of friends. Enjoy yourself in ways that won't put you in positions that could potentially hurt you, like the jealousy thing I said before.

    Sorry it was so long, I have a problem with typing a lot lol.

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  • CaramelChrissy
    13 years ago

    Well, it is okay to just mess around, but if you still have feelings for him it might not be a good idea. Because it seems like he doesn't want to be with you. Just think, will you be jealous if you see him with someone else?

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