Is it normal to still truly love and miss my ex-fiance after 6 years?

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We were about to be married and she stumbled away. I had a breakdown, dropped out of college as a senior, and now have PTSD. If we had stayed together, I can imagine a completely different life, almost like a parallel universe... think of the movie "The Butterfly Effect."

I am clingy, nostalgic, and a sucker for romance. I guess I'm a "nice guy" although I've changed that over the last half decade to an armor that refuses to get attached to any new women I meet. I don't even know if it is a conscious or sub-conscious decision.

For those who tell me to just "GET OVER IT," I'm already seeing a psych (for many years), so your smart ass remarks are background noise to me.

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    Many of the users here have never been in a serious relationship. If they do end up judging you harshly, it's only because they've never personally experienced how powerful long-standing requited love can be. As for the seasoned users, they'd only recommend you move on in hopes to save you added pain.

    Yes, it's normal what you're experiencing. It is possible you'll "get over" her, one day. Though, it's also just as likely you won't and, no matter what relationships you have ahead of you in the future, you will always look back and miss what could have been with someone you were thoroughly in love with and committed to. It can be difficult to find happiness with another when you fit so surely with her.

    I'm sorry you are not with the one you truly love.

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  • peterr
    10 years ago

    Suck a cock. You know you want to!

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