Is it normal to still think of my ex like this?

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We've been seperated for about 2 years now. Everytime I see a woman I like I feel like I'm comparing her with my ex. I'm afraid to get into another relationship. For several reasons, one being that I fear I won't develop the same connection I had with my ex, another cause I fear they won't compare to her physically. I feel so shallow yet I can't help it. I've never thought about women like this before and I feel terrible for it :[

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  • shade_ilmaendu
    11 years ago

    Was your ex your only relationship prior to the breakup? If so, that would explain a lot about why getting into a new relationship would be so difficult. It's always gonna be different, no two relationships will feel the same at all, but once you get out there, relax and do it, you'll probably find it easier than you expect.

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  • Corleone
    11 years ago

    There's a reason why you broke up with your ex. Your future relationships will be different, but that won't make them worse. For all you know, other women are better partners than your ex was.

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    • Mmmpfh
      11 years ago

      I sure hope so. This would be so much easier if I could stop missing her...

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      • Corleone
        11 years ago

        I'm afraid there's no quick-fix for that. But dwelling on your old feelings won't make anything better. This may sound like a cliché, but there are plenty of women out there. Start dating again, meet some new people. That oughta help sooner or later.

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        • Mmmpfh
          11 years ago

          I'm incredibly shy so making the approach is very difficult for me :\

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          • Corleone
            11 years ago

            Ah, but that's difficult for a lot of people. Try to remember that in the end, you've got nothing to lose by trying.

            Since I'm a journalism student, I need to approach people a lot. I was bad at talking to strangers at first, but it's something you can practice.

            I found a quick youtube video that's great for people with approach anxiety. You can watch it if you like, this guy explains stuff way clearer than I do.

            http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VY-gT2K3OPw

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    Hmmmm....could be nostril related i think.

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