Is it normal to still mourn the death of my best friend 3yrs later?

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I'm VERY picky about who I consider to be my friends nevertheless best friend. There has only been one person in my whole life that I truly considered to be my best friend and our friendship was so strong that we would die for eachother. is it normal that I got a tear in my eye?Anyways he was about as close to perfect as I believe any person could be. You know how people always speak of the dead like "oh he was just the kindest person you'd ever meet! He'd give you the shirt off his back" just because they're dead? Well I was saying that stuff about the guy everyday when he was still alive. Truly a one in a million individual. Anyways is it normal that I can still bring myself to tears 3 yrs later? His name was Matt and he died at the age of 29. Rest In Paradise bro.

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  • theAnomilyGuy
    13 years ago

    I wonder if it's bad that I honestly wish I could of just lost any other friend instead. I always ask myself "out of all ppl, why my absolutely closest in the world?!?".

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  • Zededd
    12 years ago

    yes. normal. he was your friend. i will feel the same if any of mine go before me... though, knowing my health, they'll probably be posting this long before i am...

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  • theAnomilyGuy
    12 years ago

    Today's the day he died died. 5/21/08. Rest in Paradise bro. Nothings been the same without you and never will. I will miss you forever!

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  • MorganElla
    13 years ago

    That is normal, I've lost friends and its so bad, it really is. I don't think we ever leave that pain behind, it lingers foprever, you just have to move on with it and remember the good times (:

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  • psycotics
    13 years ago

    You never really get over something like that:( srry. But I wish you luck in this and don't give up

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  • theAnomilyGuy
    13 years ago

    Thank you Todd. You must know how hard it is. Sorry for your loss aswell.

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  • ToddStellar
    13 years ago

    I am sorry to hear of your loss. Someone who I loved very deepely took her own life almost three years ago and I still think about her everyday, it still pains me to remember all that me and this person went through togeather, and I know that it will for many, many years to come. So yes, it is very normal. It will continue to hurt, but stay strong.

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  • theAnomilyGuy
    13 years ago

    Thank you guy for your reassurance, you put a smile back on my face your awesome :) He was a suicide also. The last thing he did on earth was come to my house and share a beer with me on my porch, he didn't come in which I thought was strange, then gave me a hug and told me I was the only other male he's ever loved besides his father and God. I wish I knew what was up, I blame myself for that. He shot himself in the head 10 mins later, in his car. I was the last person to see him alive. I saved that last bottle of beer we shared and keep it behind glass in my home now. My life feels permanently half ass without him :(

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  • Uzzie101
    13 years ago

    Of course it is! I knew a girl who died, and I didn't remove her number from my phones for ages.

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    • [Old Memory]
      13 years ago

      I think that's the sweetest thing you've ever written on this site.

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    • iowagirl3
      13 years ago

      I did the same thing!

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  • iowagirl3
    13 years ago

    My best friend committed suicide when I was a sophmore in high school & I still tear up when I think about him. I don't know if it will ever pass but I don't think that it's abnormal for you to miss someone that has died.

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  • DefinitelyNotNormal89
    13 years ago

    Oh this is so sad =( ofcourse it is normal, when you lose someone you love it hurts. I lost someone ten years ago and I find myself quite pathetic thinking I still cry over him (infact I had tears in my eyes just this morning thinking how much he believed in my more than anyone!) They only thing that gets me through is how lucky I was to know him and my head full of memories. Keep your head up, I'd love to say it gets easier but it doesn't, but know you're normal and smile because he was such a huge part of your life, he's probably proudly smiling down on you now.

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  • alv1592
    13 years ago

    of course it's normal to still feel sad. he was your best friend, and from what you said, it sounds like he was a great guy. he's in a better place now..and you can hold your head up knowing that he's fine.

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