Is it normal to still love my mum despite the fact sh pimped me out???

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The day I turned eight my step uncle sexually abused me for the first time. I told my mum and she said that if I wasn't so pretty it wouldn't of happend and that there really isn't anything she can do. From that day on she would dress me up and send me to bed early whenever he cam over so that he could come in and "visit" me, if I complained she would get mad and hit me because I was being selfish and should be happy that I was being loved and lucky to be pretty. From that first day on I was never allowed to celebrate my birthday or any occassion that involved presents because I got special treatment all year. My half sister got to celebrate my birthday as her own and got my Christmas presents to make up for my other attention. I am now 25 and asked my mum once why she did what she did and she responded with "it's not my fault you are so pretty, if you were not pretty it wouldn't of happend". Despite all of this and so much more I still love my mum and talk to her all the time. I try and keep her happy and blame myself for everything that happend and i'm just not sure if these feelings are normal.

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  • Judas_misunderstood
    13 years ago

    Get the evil pig bitch jailed, and ditto for your uncle.

    You're allowed to hate people who deserve it. Fuck that bitch. No, it's not normal to still love someone who caused you so much suffering.

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  • Cosmicgiggle
    13 years ago

    Fucked up on so many levels. That's your moms scape goat. Is SHE pretty? Someone ought to show her how pretty she is and see how she likes it.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    I think it's normal to love her but what she did was wrong and immoral. The very fact she blames it upon you shows how much of an evil coward she is.

    To allow the abuse to continue even though she knew about it is possibly one of the worst things a parent can/could do.

    You need to let her know that you don't believe it was your fault because it wasn't. Adults are the ones responsible for their actions when children are involved.

    And if it helps seek some counselling to talk over/come to terms with your issues.

    I'm sorry for what you went through.

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    This is one of the saddest things I've read on here.

    Your mother is an awful person who is likely incapable of loving anyone. You have no reason to love her. It is not your fault and is not normal.

    I agree with the people saying you should report your mother and uncle for this, even though it was long ago.

    I see this is an old post but I hope you still read this. I hope you find the courage to get these people out of your life and move on to a happier successful life.

    If I had a child who was molested I would in no doubt kill the molester with no fear of the consequences and I believe any loving parent would do the same.

    I wish you better luck in life.

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  • BoredGuy
    12 years ago

    i would become crazy too if i was in your shoes.

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  • bigtoy
    12 years ago

    I think it's terrible what you went through and that you still have to cope with this. I can't understand the mentality of people who let this happen. I have a 5 year old girl and I can't begin to contemplate how anyone could do this PRETTY OR NOT. I guess you want to forgive her because it's the right thing to do because she's your mom etc but she failed you and failed to protect you and that is the responsibility of every parent by law.
    You've had a tough start to life - I just hope things get better for you. Don't ever blame yourself for this.

    M

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  • moomus
    13 years ago

    She let u down big time. It was all her fault for letting it happen not your fault for being "pretty". Maybe she had a fucked up childhood but even so you are not to blame. You have every right to hate her, dont feel you have to love her out of fear or duty. No parent should ever put their child through that.

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