Is it normal to still love my ex, even though we agreed to be friends?

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My boyfriend and I broke up recently, after 3 months in an amazing relationship. It was life-altering and I experienced so many revelations, and this was also my first same-sex relationship. I still have butterflies in my stomach for him though, but he and I agreed to be friends for now due to multiple stressors in our lives that prohibit either having a relationship right now. Is it normal to still have strong feelings?

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  • DubstepismyMJ
    9 years ago

    It seems like the bond wasnt as strong as you thought it was. If he felt anything similar to what your feeling, it should have been worth fighting for, even with multiple stressors in your life.

    Thats what truly test how strong a relationship can be. How much it can handle through all of lifes problems.

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    • TheMayneDude
      9 years ago

      I understand but it was him who said, "let's be friends for now, and time will tell if we get back together," so can this indicate similar feelings? Otherwise, why would he even mention future possibilities of it. I really think it was the stress, and not us that ended it, but idk how to fix this mess.

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  • watashikara
    9 years ago

    Think about it, its actually pretty rare for both people in a relationship to completely want the break-up. Someone is almost always left wanting to make up somehow.

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    • TheMayneDude
      9 years ago

      He broke up with me, leaving me with open-ended feelings of remorse and regret for what I couldn't do to avoid this. Yet, he's the one that said "let's be friends and see if time will bring us back together" and he also told me he wants to do our "bucket list" for this summer that we made. So, I'm thinking both of us have feelings? Idk im confused

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