Is it normal to still like her

I've liked some girl since elementary school, and at the time i think she knew i liked her, we would talk and tease eachother often. A couple years later, in middle school, the first day of the new year, i was surprised to see she wasn't in a class i knew she would be in. I later found out that she had skipped a grade and was going to a different school. I thought about her almost every day for a really long time, probably too long. I had a ton of dreams about her, but all of them were us just talking and hanging out, nothing more. This year i finally mustered up the courage to contact her, and we've been sending each other a message every week or so. One week i told her about all the stuff i was going through with her and she told me she didn't want a relationship but still wanted to talk. So even after that we've been talking, but i can't stop thinking about her and i feel like its been way to long for me to still like her. I would really like to just ask her out but i already know what her answer would be. It doesn't help that she's way out of my league, my looks are hardly average if that, i can barely get B's in school, and my sense of humor would only impress a twelve year old. Is it normal to still like this girl, after all these years and knowing that nothing will likely come from our weekly messages?

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Based on 29 votes (23 yes)
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  • Underdogz

    Too many words. But I voted. No, off course.

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  • almostunreadable

    She is not a person you knew years ago in school anymore. That also means that her feelings for you (familiarity, friendship) are no longer actual.

    Give it time so that she can get to know you better (you both have changed). Do not push and rush it. She is interested in restoring at least *some* contact with you and that might mean something.

    Also be aware of a natural mechanism where most children that grew up together will not be interested in each other romantically/sexually (even though they are not cousins or anything).

    From what you have written it seems to me that there is a lot of difficulties ahead for you, so don't get your hopes with her too high. But also do not despair.

    Google "limerence" for more info on your possible condition. If you are limerent... well that sucks, but you are not alone, there are a lot of people going through all kinds of situations such as yours.

    You know how that story goes: boy meets girl, boy loses girl. Boy finds girl again, girl doesn't want him. Classic, nothing new and nothing unique, believe me :)

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  • eleventwelve

    Wow, that sounds tough. The only advice i could give is... even if you "already know what her answer would be," to honestly express how you feel and ask if there is a chance she would ever go out with you. If she's a good girl, she'll answer just as honestly, and then even if there's no chance, at least you'll know for sure.
    That's amazing though (i don't know how "normal"), that you've thought about her so long. She should be flattered if nothing else.

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  • peterrabbyt4

    Suck the bitch off and fuck her. I did and she was worth it.

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  • _edinboro

    I hate that phrase, "out of my league". The "league" is an imaginary thing that people use as an excuse to not go after who they want.

    Go for her. <3

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  • dschafer

    Yes it is completely normal, but at the same time it's not normal. That is why she doesn't want a relationship. Every guy has the Girl who got away. Saying, "she is out of my league" is to totally wrong way to go about it though.

    Look bro, you are still in contact with her. Thats a start. Hopefully from the years you have be awing over her, try to figure out what she is into and plan a "date" around that. I can't tell you how to be yourself, but be yourself and Bring your A game. If she is into you she will show it and you will know it. If it turns out to be a awkward time spent together, then maybe its time to move on.

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