Is it normal to still have crushes at the age of 32?

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I've always thought that crushes are just for teenagers. I am currently 32.

About three months ago, I saw this woman at work and I was totally stunned. I've never seen anything more beautiful in my life and I was totally desperate to find some way to introduce myself. When the opportunity came, I wasted no time getting to know her better and letting her know me better too.

I asked her out a few times on dates, but unfortunately she brought friends along which clearly implied that she wasn't interested which was fair enough. I decided then that it was a waste of time and thought no more about it. But she clearly valued me as a friend because every other day at work she would send me Microsoft Communicator messages and we would chat online regularly.

She is the sweetest thing on the planet. Before I left for my holiday, she sent me a text message wishing me a nice trip and when I fractured my shoulder, she insisted that I come down to her desk and tell her how everything is with my injury and demanded that I tell her the X-ray results the moment they come out. She also gave me some coffee from her home country because she knew I love coffee.

She even confided in me in telling me about how much she still loves her ex-boyfriend. Being the idiot that I was, I was convinced things could still work out between them and then persuaded her (successfully) to get back with her ex-boyfriend even though he lives thousands of miles away in the Middle East. She also invited me to watch a variety show (just the two of us) and we also went out of town together to an arts festival for the weekend. We also have lunch occasionally at work.

I like the feeling of getting closer to her but at the same time, it's kind of devastating to my efforts to forget her. I am starting to regret friending her on facebook. When I do stay away from her for a few days and I am beginning to get over her, she would send me an online message or I would see her beautiful person and I would be back to square one.

The last time I felt like this was when I was 18. I feel like a stupid teenager. Why do grown-ups still have crushes? I thought I should be well past that? I am also getting potential dates at an online dating website and I really can't afford to be distracted by her. is it normal for grown-ups to still have crushes? What is the easiest and painless way to get over her without doing anything drastic to hurt her feelings?

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  • Maldetete
    12 years ago

    I'm 26, and I feel that a crush is something you can develop anytime. Wouldn't a crush be the first step, then you actually "like" the person once you get to know them, which could later lead to love?

    On a snarky side note, I look forward to the romantic comedy based on your life where you will play the girls best friend that's in love with her, but that just plays the friend role and tells her to get back with her boyfriend a world away.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    You can have crushes at any age.

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  • fullhouse
    9 years ago

    I'm 28 n I had crush on this girl who was clearly not into me. But being around her was absolute bliss. I think she realised that I'm crazy abt her but she want into me. So I backed off cuz it hurt

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  • GoraIntoDesiGals
    11 years ago

    I'm 35 and I have crushes all the time.

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  • LovableHumans
    12 years ago

    You shouldn’t push that girl away and make her go back to her boyfriend. Anyway, she is now with her boyfriend, you are safe and could try flirting with her again; ask her out for a drink again. You won’t lose anything that you don’t have at present. So feel free to do whatever you like to draw her attention. I’ve seen many flirting girls who changed their boyfriend, even though it seemed that they would never do it.
    The other option is find another sweet girl to crush with.

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  • joybird
    12 years ago

    I don't know if you will ever get over her. It does seem as though she feels 'safe' with you and maybe doesn't even realise how much you like her :o(

    Maybe if you ask her out and she knocks you back, it would help you to move on. It would hurt you but not her - as that's what you want.

    Good luck with this :o(

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  • YumInsanity
    11 years ago

    These people are idiots, having a crush at your age is a serious and possibly even fatal sign of regression that could eventually lead to Alzheimers or pre-senile dementia or, in the most severe cases, priapism, which gives you a permanent boner. Warning: it's not as good as it sounds

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  • chicken471bologna
    12 years ago

    Grow up! Crushes are for kids.

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