Is it normal to still feel you could of helped a loved one from dying

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My dad passed away 17 years ago this October 11th. He was a alcoholic and drank very heavily probably the last 10-15 years of his life . He was a Vietnam vet so that had a lot to do with his drinking . For years my family and I tried to get my dad help. We had him go into rehab facilities only for him to check himself out . I still to this day blame myself for not doing more for him . I miss him so much . He's missed out on so many things. My brothers wedding and the birth of 4 grandsons . I know people have told me there was nothing I could have done more for him . But it just has been eating away at me .

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  • RoseIsabella
    7 years ago

    Yes, I believe what your feeling is normal and natural, but I also believe that you and everyone else were powerless to force sobriety on your poor, late, alcoholic father. It sounds like he had plenty of opportunities to go for recovery, but he chose not to do so for whatever reason. I'm sorry this happened to you, your father and your entire family, I truly am.

    All you can really do now is to try to let go, and basically just give him over to God. Whatever it is it's not your fault. You can choose to be grateful for whatever good memories you have with your father and you can still pray for him even though he's long gone. Please don't blame yourself, it's not your fault, dear heart.

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    • The_Creep_is_here
      7 years ago

      Andrea Bocelli, Sarah Brightman - Time To Say Goodbye
      https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4L_yC

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