Is it normal to still crush on a girl 6 years later?

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6 years ago i met a girl named "amber" when i was 15. she was 10/10 looks and she had no friends. i started to talk to her on the first day of 9th grade. we became best friends. i had a crush on her that was over the top. i mean literally ill never like a girl in my life more than i liked her. i asked her to be my girlfriend and she rejected me. things got weird and eventually our friendship slowly died. every time i thought of amber or saw a picture of her my stomach would hurt and i would have overwelming jealousy and love pain.

things got better and i then met another girl a year later named "amanda". i ended up dating her. after a year of dating amanda i cut all ties with amber to stay faithful and focused on amanda. i fell in love with her. we have been dating for 4 years, we never broke up. but i just realized that ive been checking ambers instagram everyday for 1 year now. i dont even realize what i am doing. i still love amber. i mean i love amanda in a wife kind of way, we have the same personality, hobbies, we are both introverts and we are perfect for eachother, but i am not attracted to amanda like i am to amber. its something im not dealing with. i dont think ill ever get over this. is this normal?

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  • hurtmeno
    8 years ago

    Fuck... smh. The-one-that-got-away syndrome. Least u have one. Don't be greedy. Fuck Amber. She's got problems. Tricks are for kids. Stunt on dat hoe, bro! But nah, lol if talk to someone about her, if ur gf is cool, talk to her(warning- only if u KNOW she won't freak out WARNING)

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  • IwillanswerYou
    8 years ago

    yes it is normal for you to not be over Amber, but I also don't think you and Amanda should be together. It seems to me that you just settle for the relationship that you have with Amanda in order to make up with what you felt for Amber. Do you notice how I said felt in the pass tense, that's because you think you still love Amber, but you don't. I think what you think is love is just you remembering how you felt for her. You miss the actual felling of actual love (not the blend love for Amanda)

    I think you still haven't met the person you really love and that's why you still think about Amber. Because once you meet that person , you will without a question love her more than you ever loved Amber. You will still remember Amber fondly, but nothing will surpass the love you have for your girl.

    So be a Man and break up with Amanda. Don't tell yourself that you will never find a love like Amber again because you will. Don't settle for less that's just insulting to you and to Amanda. I speak from experience after having a great love to several blend ones and than finally meeting that special person that erased all the others. Good luck with the break up!

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  • januarycurse
    8 years ago

    yes this is normal

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