Is it normal to still care for an old flame from 8 years ago?

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We only dated a couple of months, but it was a mostly wonderful time filled with 5 hour long conversations, mutual interests, mutual attraction, and only one intimate night. I was a busy single mother and didn't really have the time for much more at the time, which he understood, but wasn't equipped to handle - he was 8 years my junior.

The break up was emotional, for me anyway, since I was already going through quite a bit. I did know that he still cared, and he did give me the courtesy of a goodbye in person when I moved back to my home state in 2003.

We never spoke again until today. He found me. I have thought of this man at least weekly since we parted. I always found it sad and incredible that I never experienced the connection we had prior to meeting him, nor since.

I have had two relationships since, and was blessed with a beautiful daughter from one of them, but I do happen to be single right now, as is he. We live many states apart and I don't know what could come of this, if anything. All I do know is that my heart is fluttering all over again but I'm afraid that my memories are far better than any reality will be.

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  • Healee88
    12 years ago

    Go for it! Next month my friend is going to marry the man she fell in love with 10 years ago. They broke up and in 2008 they got back together, now they are getting married.

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  • red_gal_85
    12 years ago

    Your story is very sweet and totally understandable, Maybe the timing for you in this guy from you past was just not right, mayve now the timing is better, perhaps you were ment to have you daughter and now that thats out of the way it might be a good time for you to start up a relationship with this man, Dont move to quickly as hes still younger then you but maybe invite him out for a coffee and catch up on old times, let him know you have been thinking about him all these years and try to reconnect with him who knows maybe this relationship could be the one you have been looking for

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