Is it normal to still be single at 20?

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Yep. I'm twenty and single. And it's not just that I don't have a boyfriend either... I've NEVER had a boyfriend before. All that stuff most knocked out in middle school and high school: holding hands, kissing, going on dates, falling in love, losing your virginity.... yeah... I've never even held a guys hand before.
The shocker here is- i'm not that ugly! I'm 100% average. I'm pretty sure the turn-off here is my crippling shyness; but still, I'm not shy enough to the point of not being able to hold daily conversations with people. Its only been the past year that I've become fully aware that I cant stay alone forever... I mean.. I don't WANT to be alone forever. Whats wrong guys?! Is this normal or am I just a complete reject?

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  • Oolong94
    8 years ago

    I know how you feel I just turned 21 and still single.I have had 2 girlfriends in the past with each relationship only lasting for a short amount of time. I also understand about the whole lonely thing I know i don't need someone to be happy but i can't help think to myself that I'd like to meet someone I like who likes me back it gets lonely sleeping alone and not dating. I'm pretty sure awkwardness and shyness is also my biggest problem

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  • DickwaffleTheGreat
    8 years ago

    I am a 21 year old guy in the same situation as you never had anything with a girl ANYTHING so yea i think its normal. Hope it help knowing you are not a lone :)

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  • Aries
    8 years ago

    You are just shy it's fine , it's cute .. you will meet a girl who makes you feel at ease and things will be easier for you. I have been with some shy girls and it just takes some time and affection for them to open up .

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  • Short4Words
    8 years ago

    There's more to it than looks. It's normal. I'm a guy with the same problems. If shyness is your issue start talking to more guys. Courtship is a skill. Besides if you're not half-bad looking and a decent girl once you make yourself seem available many guys will throw down the gauntlet for you and do most of the work.

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  • Nokiot9
    8 years ago

    Being shy is a difficult thing to deal with. Crippling is absolutely the right word. I used to be SOME shy and still kind of am. I get nervous in social situations like parties and bars. I had a hard time looking people in the face and remembering names. And being a nihilist doesn't help either. You just have to pull yourself out of your own comfort zone. Once you get over the fear of rejection and numb to its sting, it's really easy to talk to and meet new people. And if you really aren't ugly, it'll be easy as hell to get a BF. Shit, I'll find you a BF. Lol where do you live?

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  • regisphilbin
    8 years ago

    you sound like a hottie

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