Is it normal to still be in love and want help for someone like this?

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Does anyone have an experience with bi polar ? Or depression?
My ex is having a rough time, and I am somewhat crazy I must be for standing by her. She has left me several times and each time it has seemed real.. But there is a pattern.
She'll have an episode, and say how much she loves me and needs me and wants me. Then the next day she's completely off on one and ending it all. Says things like 'I can't be with you, I don't want to hurt you but I'm not happy, we have different lives'
It's just so hurtful, each time I got stronger but felt drained. The last two times I just felt like leaving but I can't. I know she needs me. Everytime she comes back she says she never meant a word of it.

This last time she's said we can't be together and that she wants to remain friends and doesn't want to lose me but she won't talk to me at all? Won't give me the time of day. I called her loads of times. It seems impossible but I love this girl to death. I have searched for hours on the Internet looking for answers and all I see is ' my bi polar partner keeps leaving me' so I'm hoping it is a pattern but with no one to turn to and no comfort from her, I just feel like I've lost everything and more, like I can't live without her.
When it's good it's brilliant and when it's bad it's hard but I stand by her. But this time it feels real, but what gets me is she's blocked me out completely, told me a few things like she's depressed and wants to find herself without me, but it still doesn't make sense when the day before she was telling me how much she loved me, and she even was scared cause she thought I was leaving her!

I know you'll all say get out while you can. But it's not an option if you think this is a cycle or what these people do. Will she come back ? Anyone have experience ?

Thanks for your time.

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  • Aliceee93
    8 years ago

    You have a good heart it seems. Battling mental illnesses isn't easy for the one ill or the partner. I think half of the behaviour is part of the illness otherwise she wouldn't keep coming back. Give her some space and maybe she'll come around?
    It's sad that so many people dismiss mental illnesses. It's hard really it is, but everybody needs somebody.

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  • hurtmeno
    8 years ago

    Fuck.. smh.. it's deadly. You'll only get hurt. I kno, I've been changed by such a female. Popped my mental illness cherry wit the last girl I was dealing with. Give her space. Getting angry/spazzing out on her will only make her flip the script. Making her see her ways is like trying to catch a greased pig. Good luck bro

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  • (s)aint
    8 years ago

    Why isn´t it an option to leave? You clearly do love her, and she probably loves you too but she is not acting like she loves you back.

    To me, once someone says they leave me I would never allow them the chance to hurt me like that again.

    Heck, ever considered that she does leave you because she isn´t happy but comes back when she feels lonely?

    I knew a bipolar girl like that once, she broke that poor guys heart several times and actually admitted to me that she was getting lonely and never would find someone better -_-´

    Bipolar girls are ... uggh, known too many of them to willingly get involved with that shit.

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