Is it normal to stay with a guy that treats you badly?

ITN to stay with a guy that treats you horribly,because he.s good looking,good in bed ,and somewhere deep down you think he loves you,but has major issues? And ITN to get fed up of it, end it, he ignores , then you email him that you want him back as you have an addiction to him,and when you don.t call,he calls after an ammount of time,and you go back,even though it makes you feel horrid,but you feel horrid with him,but horrid and miss him when you split with him?

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Based on 78 votes (19 yes)
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Comments ( 31 )
  • Leafy

    thanks for your answers. I know it.s abnormal. I.m leaving him .

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    • Justsomejerk

      Good for you.

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      • Leafy

        Thanks :o) I am quite pleased with myself. :o) xxx

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        • mightymouse

          Make it stick! Being alone is better than being with someone that isn't what you need.

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  • What are you, a glutton for punishment? (MadTV Terminator and Jesus video quote. Lol)

    To be honest, what is it you want? You already know what he's like, and you still choose to be with him. What do you want us, or anyone to do? You understand what he's like, so you make your choice. You already have all the information you need.

    Women do this, though, maybe not the majority to it to this "extent", but they still choose good looking assholes instead of good guys.

    Source:
    A good looking asshole. (Lol)

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  • NoraBaker

    Sadly, it is normal. I can assure you, though, that freeing yourself from a relationship of that nature is better. Yet completely abnormal.

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  • DanishGirl

    You've made a huge step in leaving him...good for you now comes the hard part. If you don't deal with the issues you have you are going to fall into the same kind of relationship over and over again. Take a break and build your confidence and self-worth. Figure out what you want from a partner and settle for nothing less. If you happen to fall into another relationship like that recognize the signs and gtfo. love hurts but when you find that special someone it's worth it. You just have to believe that your worth it too.

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  • BeautifulZinnie

    It's called being around a guy who treats you like crap... and you get used to it. You don't want to do that... because once he treats you that way... you'll begin to think it's okay... or you don't mind it... It's not healthy.. but that's my personal opinion. (:

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    • Leafy

      Good point x

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  • Leafy

    I've left him and am on the up. :o) yes, I know I had issues, but I am happy to have left them behind and am getting my life back togther. No more jerks I think!!

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    • Sadomasochist&BDSM

      good comment ...

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  • NeuroNeptunian

    It's normal.

    I would almost go as far to say as you have Daddy issues. it's heavenly when you are with him and he is happy with you, right? You love having his approval and making him happy, right? It makes you feel good?

    You have trapped yourself with your own lack of emotional stability as an unstable relationship is all you know. Emotional turbulence is what you're after and unless you bring yourself to a peaceful and emotionally stable state, you will never get over him or relationships like this.

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    • Leafy

      He;s a dog and a nasty person - very controlling and manipulative.It; hasn;t been easy - but am now seeing the benifits. I;ve had to make some major changes to keep him away too - changed my cell phone number, blocked his emails etc

      Yes, I guess it was a Daddy thing, I almost lost all of my confidence, but it;s coming back. xx

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      • NeuroNeptunian

        Good, and don't let him back in your life. Those kind of relationships are difficult to get out of. Better to learn now then to be beaten or killed.

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        • Leafy

          Thank you for your understanding. you are right. :o) I am relieved, I think he had violent tendancies too. x

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  • woman1986

    It is abnormal, but i understand why you stayed with him because i did the same thing with a guy i knew since i was 17 . I was insecured, afraid to be alone, i thought now one else would love me for who i am, and i was very attracted to him. It took me five years to completely get over him. I'm single now , but i am finally taking care of myself. You have to learn how to love yourself and take care of u, even if you are alone.

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    • Leafy

      Thanks for that. I am getting over him bit by bit and have changed my phone number so he cannot reach me at all. x

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  • Leafy

    So.. it's not normal. Ok. At least i know. xxx

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  • Mando

    It is not normal. Some women stay. Most wouldn't. Most would weigh out the good with the bland and not so hot - but would definitely not put up with being mistreated or taking crap. Abuse stands on its own as singularly unacceptable no matter everything else.

    Sounds like you plan to give him the boot and good for you. You may want to get a bit of counselling around whether you are giving out "I'm a doormat" signals. Abusive guys llok for that I think.

    That doesn't make you responsible for another man's abusive tendencies. But you are responsible to protect yourself. So better to fine tune your shit detector.

    If you've left congratulations!

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    • Leafy

      Thanks Mando. I'm stil left!! it's taking time to adjust to my new and somewhat happier life, as I am so used to feeling anxious. I got a bit down over the weekend, but feel I finally have my closure at last. Yes, I do think I pick ass**holes really.. and yes I give out 'dorrmat ' signals probably. I need to look into that and as to why I stayed when I was being treated like crap. not good!! x

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  • ccjigsaw

    You sound like my dumbass sister. I hate her cause she's lazy in every aspect of life. If you want to get over this guy you actually have to put in EFFORT. Not just go... Well, I want to be with him, so I must be addicted to him, so I will be with him. You have to suffer for a year or more and literally cut him out of your life. This will be hard, so you likly won't do it. I shouldn't judge, cause I don't walk your path, but I've had my share of shit to, and you get nothing done by sitting where it's comfortable. You need ot throw yourself of your comfy little seat of abuse and scramble in the darkness for a new lease on life. Or...Just stay with your shithead boyfriend and post patheric stories on IIN

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    • Leafy

      Hey, thanks for your nice answer!!

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      • ccjigsaw

        You're welcome! Sometimes I just randomly shoot rainbows out my ass.<--(Sarcasm) I hope you move on with your life C; There is so much more out there

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  • FocoUS

    Not normal. But it is common.

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  • PapzBSlim

    Happy you are strong enough to leave. I have noticed lately that girls, especially young girls under 25, like these types of men and need drama in their life or they will get bored. Happy you are not fitting the trend that I have noticed around me.

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  • Leafy

    Actually guys n' Girls - I;ve left him!! Just had to write in and write it down. I am aware that he is a Class A asshole of the first degree. It's over. I am starting to feel better n myself and getting my life back. it wasn;t normal at all. I know. ItDuz - a good looking asshole... LOL.

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    • KingOfNowhere

      Not normal but sadly it is common, congratulations on getting your life back.

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      • Leafy

        Thank you. xxx

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  • Bet you stay with him, OR leave him and then go back to him.

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  • Justsomejerk

    Sucker for punishment.

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    • Leafy

      Good answer. I agree. X

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