Is it normal to stay with a bf that cheats

I stayed in an abusive relationship and even went back to it after I'd broken free. It's difficult to explain how consuming it can be to someone who doesn't know. Ultimately, though, it was within my power to truly get free and, as bad as he's been for you, it's really down to you now.

For obvious reasons, you're still caught up with him (recording him having sex, for instance). This may not work for everyone but distance works for me. The day when you wake up and you realise you just don't care about this person any more is a really good one. :)

For fuck sake. Leave the loser. It makes me so angry when women stay in these types of relationships, why are you doing this to yourself. Spy ware on his phone that is not how a relationship is supposed to.be like. This person will never change, don't spend your time trying to fix him or anything like that. You deserve more.

Yah good job buying him a phone to spy on him.. I dont feel sorry for you being stupid and continuing to deal with him. if you're not smart enough to leave then maybe you deserve him.

He cheats, you leave and come back, you invest effort and money to prove he cheats.... What's wrong with you ? fuckin leave him for good already and stop being a fucking doormat..... jesus fucking christ i tell you what..

Give it time and cut all contact with him. hell get the point sooner or later and it'll be easier for you in the long run just to cut ties.

I just got out of an abusive relationship, and there were plenty of times I went back to him knowing full well I didn't deserve his abuse. But I finally broke it off too- and he thought I was coming back too. But didn't. It's normal to think of him- and still love him/ have a place for him in your heart. Just don't persue him.

In our society, many women stay with abusive, or cheating men because they have low self-esteem. Look, just because other people do something (like staying with a cheater) doesn't mean you should.

Never judge what's good for you personally by what's "normal" because what's normal isn't always good for you. Don't be dysfunctional. Put yourself first here.

Hope that makes sense.

he doesnt fuckin love you he never wil!!!!!!!!!! !if u go back to him idgf what he says if yoy go back to him your a dumb bitch and deserve to be cheated on. seriously i no it sounds harsh but your not respecting yourself . protect your heart you deserve better

Girl, dump him.

He will not change, look at what you are doing to yourself, it's not healthy for you. Try to get some professional help if necessary but don't continue with that, you are wasting your life with someone that don't deserve you, in my opinion you are better alone than you are with him, don't waste your time, just find the strength i am sure you have and move on with your life, anyone deserves what you are going through so close your eyes, deep breath, be strong and fight for yourself.

Why bother spying? You know he cheats already. Some women would put a bomb in his phone.

IDGAF

There's an old saying in Tennessee — I know it's in Texas, probably in Tennessee — that says, fool me once, shame on..... shame on you. Fool me...... you can't get fooled again

I like what CheyChey said.

Why the fuck are you putting energy into this son of a bitch? You want the truth? You sound fucking pititful. Do something with your life. Stop crying over some shithead that obviously wants nothing to do with you. How pathetic! Wake up. Life is going to bring you shit. Love, friends, family, work whatever area it may be in life, at some point, is going to bring you shit. Your job is to move on from that shit or, better yet learn from it and continue on. Do you know why you were taken advantage of? Because you act weak. You cry. You let the world's shit get to you and then you feel sorry for yourself. Chances are, you'll end up in another shitty relationship because you take experiences, burry yourslef in a pit of them, and stay in that pit until you've drowned yourself in your own tears. Use life experiences as a way to move forward, not backward. And this fucktard. Really? You're still thinking about him? Absolutaly pitiful. He's fucking around and having fun while you're sitting at hom crying over HIM. You know what the best thing about a mirror is? It's not so that you can see how pretty you look everyday or check yourself out to make sure your appearence is right. The best thing about a mirror is that it lets you see how you really look. Really. Look at yourself in the mirror and look out how pitiful you've become. It's pathetic, isn't it? Now move forward from that position and, along the way, remind yourself that you don't want to be a pathetic shit that cries over some loser that mistreated the fuck out of you. Move forward and on with life and never see that pitiful, sad face you saw in the mirror previously. Shit happens. It's how you deal with it that matters.

if you know he's cheating why would you want to be intimate w/ him? even if he says he wears a condom(which he prob. doesnt) he can still catch std's through saliva,&, or just by skin to skin contact, do you really want to get something from him?? ewww save yourself & find somebody who only needs 1 woman in his lif!!

"Is it normal to stay with a bf that cheats"

Um well it's certainly great for him.

"I found this site, and the comments are very good"

I'm not touching that one.

Also from the experience I'm at 120 lbs and so much more happier because of that experience to never going back to be chunky wahoo! So good luck sweetheart, and I know you go back because you love him but he's not on the same page with you. If he felt the same way as you do about him he wouldn't even be watching porno because he wants you instead. Your man is out there I believe everybody's got there someone out there for them going threw the same crap as you there other person. Hang on but it does get better a lot better if you move on. He shouldn't be putting you threw that much pain if he really truly cares.