Is it normal to stay in an unhappy marriage

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Im a white woman aged 27 in my second marriage of two years to an Indian, I have a very huge problem,I dont seem to get along with anything he says or wants i have begun to detest everything about him, because of the different cultural backgrounds our marriage is a constant battlefield and we can not agree to anything, This situation has started to affect my two daughters (not his children)emotionally, I see the resentment building up in them as well, Theres is constant fighting, arguing, insults thrown back and forth, I have fallen out of love with him because of the growing animousity between us, and hate every and any kind of intimacy he tries to initiate, I feel like running away but stay because I am not financially stable to walk out now. Have been on antidepressant for the last two months to prevent suicidal thoughts. Its a bad situation and i dont know what to do Help

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Comments ( 12 )
  • stratman
    12 years ago

    1) get a job
    2) leave

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    • admirer
      12 years ago

      Agreed.
      The economy sucks, I know. So, while you're seeking employment; divorce him, apply for every possible form of assistance you can (you, being a single mother of two, will receive all kinds of help) & get on your own two feet.
      You & your kids will be exceedingly better off for it.

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  • joybird
    12 years ago

    Don't consider suicide coz you'd be leaving your kids behind and as they are not his, he would put them into care.

    It is unfair of you to stay and allow them to live like this. Apply for housing assistance and get out of there. When I started out in my marriage every penny went on the mortgage and we had 2 fold out chairs and a cardboard box as a table. We were never happier! As long as you have a roof over your head, you and your children can be happy even in poverty. I doubt you will all starve to death, but the mental health of you all is very important.

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    • unhappy
      12 years ago

      I know the challenges of divorce, this is the second marriage.just cant help feeling like a failure as this is the second time round. thanks for the motivation my kids are the only sort of happiness i have and i have to focus on them

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      • joybird
        12 years ago

        You haven't failed at anything! A lot of men change once they think you're committed to them (stuck with them). He was probably a real Romeo until you got married. In other words he conned you! Anyhow, he maybe underestimates your love for your kids!

        Take care!!

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  • MissClaire
    12 years ago

    Its normal but you shouldn't. It's not fair to you, your kids, and your husband.
    My parents got divorced when I was 5 and they were so much happier because of it - which made me happier.

    Saying Yes is usually easier than saying No - however, saying No will open up the opportunity for you to say Yes to more things that you love!

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  • IndiansAndMuslimsAreFilthyThings
    4 years ago

    Just whip his curry ass back to HinduCurryLand and leave!

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  • unhappy
    12 years ago

    FYI- No one dumped or is kicking me out you idiot, read the title: iin to stay in an unhappy marriage. Most of my maritul problems result from cultural differences, no where was it mentioned MONEY PROBLEMS. I suggest you READ first

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  • SassyFrassyLassie_old
    12 years ago

    Leave.

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  • legendary27
    12 years ago

    Perhaps you married too soon?
    The smartest thing you should do is prepare yourself before you do anything drastic. If you want to leave your husband, you make sure you are prepared to do so. Do what you can financially before divorcing him. Save what you can, or seek a higher paying job, or even think about going to school for a better career. Sure, it may take a little while, but what's a few years compared to being miserable for the rest of your life?

    No matter what though, good luck to you.

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  • Noonesperfect
    12 years ago

    WTF u bet your gonna get married again and again????

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  • qzack96
    12 years ago

    That's what you get for being a filthy gold digger (in addition to having kids, if I might add)!
    The first guy dumped you. The second one's in the process of kicking you out. Do you have a third one on deck, at least?
    You're no better than diseased prostitutes hopping from one penis to the next, chasing the almighty dollar.

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