Is it normal to stay as "friends with benfits" for 3 years

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ok he is using you no really he is

hunny, wether the words "boyfriend" or "I love you" come into play or not, the truth is, you've been dating him for the last three years. Call it what you want, an open relationship, friends with benefits, whatever. but asking total strangers wether or not you should stop seeing this person is messed up. talk to him, ask him what he wants and figure out what you want, cause obviously you don't have a clue.

try smoking pot

Get a life.

If he loved you he most likely would have told you. Friends with benefits only works when your 16-low 20s.. Someone always gets hurt.

Depends what you want from the situation

Oops. Verbatim

@Ollieo: my words nearly verbatum

Thnk you for you point of view, he knows that we are in a serious relationship, but for some reason he doesn't wanna admitted to it. I also think that he likes to have to option to say that he's single to any girl if he chose to. And he knows that if he were to cheat on me he would break my heart buti don't believe he has.

I will keep what you said in mind
Thanks

You shouldn't move on unless you find out that he doesn't return your feelings. Talk to him about this. Obviously things weren't serious initially but they are now so it's okay to redefine your relationship. But he may not initially react well to the boundaries an official relationship would impose as he may be used to thinking of himself as being single, even of he hasn't been acting the part. It's okay to tell him that you thing the two of you hace somethig good together and ou'd like to be serious and committed. Don't trot out marriage and kids or anything like that just yet, just monogamy and officiality, if those are what you are looking for.

But also be aware that he may view you as a no complications, non-serious convenient source of sex, however intimate you two may otherwise be. If this is the case, it is up to him to redefine his perspective and see you as the girlfriend material you actually are. It may take a little bit and maybe even breaking up with him for him to appreciate you for who you actually are. Either way, you should maintain your self-respect and ensee that you are with someone who cares about returning the time and love that you give him, and if he will not be that man, then yes, you should leave him.

Move on. Can't you find anything better that this? If not, that is the problem to solve, not wasting your time on this loser.

Luicyyou has a lot of time to waste