Is it normal to start hating my best friend?

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Hey,
Ive had the same best friend for 4 years now .
In the past year i dont think i have been noticing it at all cause i follow her alot, and i want that to change! She has been ditching me alot lately, talking about me behind my back, and ignooring me alot but when i come to hang out with her its like it dosent even matter. I call her over and she just comes and says 'what?!' when she can see im sitting by myself. She ditches me for guys mostly, because she wants their attention and tries to hard to get them. i thought i was her best friend she acts like it sometimes im really mixed up and annoyed at her alot! I dont know weather i should be mad at her but sometimes i just play along cause i dont like fighting with people. Now i sort of want to stay away from her but also still want to be her best friend cause i cant imagine life without her! What should i do?

this is not ok, you should move on and find someone else 12
its fine, ignoor everything your feeling 0
just try and work it out between you two 11
leave her, you can do better 8
still be best friends 1
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  • mim90
    12 years ago

    haha thanks guys for helping me:) yay i love this site so much

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  • emotionalwreck4ever
    12 years ago

    ignore her and see if she apologizes and if she doesnt find a new best friend.

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  • weirdppl
    12 years ago

    You sound a lot like my friend and I was actually worried you could be my friend talking about me, but I don't ditch my friend for guys so it probably isn't.

    Any way, I did this to my friend for a while because she seemed to have so many other friends and activities and no time for me, so I started trying to distance myself from her and pretending she wasn't my best friend to avoid feeling hurt whenever she wasn't around for me.

    I tried to act indifferent and forced myself to stop caring whether she was around or not, because I didn't want to get close again only to find out I came second. It was stupid, I know. Now I give her space, but still treat her as my best friend.

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  • DudeLookARussian
    12 years ago

    She'll figure it out. Give her time. There's a saying among guys; "Bros before Hoes". While I'm not exactly a fan of the wording, as it's needlessly degrading to both men and women, the underlying principle has merit. Relationships come and go, but friends stay with you for life. Don't leave her outright, but give her some time. She'll break up with a few guys, realize life isn't about having a boyfriend, and stop being a jerk eventually. You've gotta give it time though and be patient with her. Definitely hang out with some other people in the meantime, but don't abandon her as a friend.

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  • Dazzie
    12 years ago

    She does not sound like a bestfriend to me. Bestfriends do not ditch each other, talk behind your back, or leave you for guys. Go find a new bestfriend.

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  • Shackleford96
    12 years ago

    You need to be cool; it sounds like you are way over-thinking things. Let her contact you. If she doesn't come around and take the initiative some time, then what does that tell you? Maybe the friendship is one-sided. Should you really put up with her anymore if it is?

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