Is it normal to sort out your deep inner feelings?

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Ok, here's my story:

When I was in primary school (grade 5) I was bullied by 90% of the boys in my grade, and a few of my best girl friends (I'm a girl). That experience lead to me having problems with confidence, which I had no idea about until recently.

Being my own little therapist, I decided to look deep into my feelings. I realised that I haven't trusted ANYONE since grade five! Not even my bestfriends. And I also figured out why I'm so bad at public speaking, because when I was bullied everyone would be so mean when I got up to talk, call me names and talk over me, even boo-ing and I couldn't take it anymore, and the teacher was blind and wouldn't care.

My question to you guys, is it normal to look into your own feelings and sort out your own problems all the time? Should I talk to someone about it, even considering I have the trust issue that I'm too scared to resolve? How will I know who to trust?

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  • littlegeorge14
    13 years ago

    You sound exactly like me. What you went through is rough. I know. Its difficult, but you need to talk about it with an experienced therapist. If you are continually delving deep into your feelings, there is probably much more to it than you think. A therapist can help you figure it out and how you can begin to trust people again. Just make sure you find a therapist who understands you are an intellectual. People who think about things as deeply as you and I need to truly understand our feelings before we can heal.

    I honestly think parents and schools need to be more attentive to bullying. Many will say its just kids being kids, but the victims carry lifelong wounds.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      13 years ago

      I have tried therapy before, but for an anxiety problem, which has completely healed now that I am older.
      I hate going to the therapist, because they cannot relate at all. I feel like it's rude to say that, they are professionals but sometimes they don't know how to deal with things that they haven't experienced.

      And I completely agree with your last statement, littlegeorge14. I ran up to my teacher crying one day with my friends cause i had given in & had enough. he talked to the main culprits for like fifteen minutes, got them to apologise & that's it. he didn't understand what a big impact bullying made on my life and on other kids lives, and treated it like a brother was mean to his sister, but it was so much more. I wish I could tell him now how wrong he was, and I should have gone to someone else.

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  • Justdreaming
    13 years ago

    I agree with BlueWolf, but I think it's because I'm a dude. When you go it alone it's easier to understand what's wrong. You experience the problem yourself rather than some random telling you, it won't sink in as well.

    Good job going it alone though, that takes effort.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    NEVER trust ANYONE, except your one true best friend, and possibly your parents.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    That's so sad:[
    I agree with mtnw

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  • BlueWolf
    13 years ago

    I do this exact same thing and have gone through similar expriences in the past going back as far as grade school. I think it's healthy to examine and learn to understand yourself and face your inner issues head on and without fear.

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  • almostunreadable
    13 years ago

    It's normal BUT... extremely unhealthy to deal with mental low-level directly. You may even do a damage to your mental health this way. I strongly recommend that you don't burden your pretty head with this so much :)

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  • mtnw
    13 years ago

    i think you are a smart girl for figuring out the basis of your trust issues.

    i think you might want to talk to a professional who can help you get over not being able to trust anyone.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      13 years ago

      Thank you for your input xx (:

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