Is it normal to sometimes go backwards in a relationship?

I have been with my girlfriend since, We were both 18. when I first starting doing the doors. Since the first night we just got on so well & when I found out Afew days later from her friend that she liked me. I was so happy & couldn't stop smiling. After our first date we spent every free time together. I had already had sex before but I was her first but said 2 her I don't mind how long she wants 2 wait because I just loved being with her.
then after 3 months we had sex. She said she was going to university & didn't want to leave me. I said I would move with her anywhere she wants to go. Her mum was going through a break up with this guy. my gf & her mum said why don't we all move away together & it would be a good idea.

3 years down. I got my degree but my gf failed so had to redo her final year. At this time me & her mum had a argument which ended up me having 2 move out. I didn't want to leave her, I started renting a house. But to my shock she never moved in with me & stayed with her mum.
I even said that she didn't have to pay any bills. At this time she was horrible to me. She would only come 2 visit me once a week then answer the fone to me. One day she said to me that she wanted to just be friends. So I said ok. That night my m8 phoned me & said he saw my gf out with a group of people. Me & my m8 went there but I pretended, I brought her a drink. when I went over 2 see her. She said it was over. I said yeah that's fine, girls kepted going passed me & smiling at me. She why don't u just go off with one of them sluts. I just walked off & out of the club then home.
Next morning she rung me saying she thinks it's for the best that we are friends. I said no I that wanna be friends with her coz it would be abit weird being friends with her if I or her had a new partner so I would be better not 2. Next day she phoned me crying saying she would be able not having me in her life anymore & asked me 2 meet up. I agreed. we meet up & then got back together.

A year down the line we would never really see each other only once or twice a week & she would only stay down mine once a month. In the end I got fend up & decided to move home with my parents & spend time with my family & friends for awhile. I went to visit her Afew weeks ago & while looking through our holiday pictures on her laptop while she was at work I saw a photo of her sat on a guys lap & then noticed it was the night she dumped me which I changed all my feelings for her. When she got home I asked her about the photo & she kicked off saying y was I checking all her stuff & for me to go if I don't trust her. So I drove home.

Afew days later she come to see me & said it was nothing in it & she never done anything & she said why would she go 4 him when she had me? I through maybe she never then im not big headed but im 6ft4 & im in very good shape & always get alot of attention from girls when I'm on the doors & sometimes when I out in the day. this guys lap she was sat on was the opposite 2 me. He looked Like Harry Potters twin brother. So we got back together.

Since being back the last few weeks I feel like I've got a new life & I don't really Like long distance relationship which now we have living 200 miles apart. I don't ring her every day like i used 2 do anymore then she will ring me 2 or 3 days later saying do I still live her but she don't ring me either. I just feel like I have been trying 2 make it work for so long now & I'm tired of it now. She us making a effect now ringing me & has come to visit me twice in a month & booked a trip away together in 2 weeks time for us to go to the place we have always talked about moving to when she finishs university in 2 months time. I don't know if she is just dragging me along & just don't want another girl to have me? Should I just give up & have someone new or should u just see how things go?

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Comments ( 7 )
  • lc1988

    I think you need to find someone new. She doesn't appreciate what she has and now she'll have to learn the hard way. You both are just kinda half assing the relationship it seems. What's the point? Not once did you say you see a future with this girl.

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  • suckonthis9

    Make your mind up!
    Either do her or don't.
    Please try to work on your grammar; avoid the use of symbols used in texting.

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  • You deserve better! Shes no good and it sounded like she "cheated" on you the night you broke up. (I don't know if I should call it cheating because you weren't really together that night.) Sounds like shes keeping you as the rebound guy and waiting for better to come so she can throw out of the picture.

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  • joybird

    This relationship has run its course but she is reluctant to let go completely as she hasn't found anyone new yet.

    Simple.

    Get you out and find someone new before she does.

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  • IntrepidMermaid

    You seem like a really sweet, sincere guy. And she seems like a flaky Little manipulator. How come guys like you always go for the nasty girls? I've been looking for a good guy all my life and the good guys are always with these horrible women who treat them very badly. Too bad you don't live in the United States. I'd be like, holler!

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  • Welshy

    Sorry people. I know my grammar wasn't very good. I went to town on it & wrote over 6,000 words then had to cut it down because you only can write 5,000 maximum!

    I am just going to see how our trip goes in two weeks tme. Since I have moved 200miles away from her. I have distanced myself from her I.e. I don't phone her every day anymore.
    In my line of work I find it very easy to meet girls. The weekend she broke up with me. I got asked out on a date by 3 girls that I known for awhile but wouldn't of through they liked me? Because I said no to them all none of them talked to again?
    We gf keeps going on about how she wants us to have a baby when she finishs university. When I said I want to sort our relationship out first she got annoyed about it.
    I'm getting to the point now that I just wanna focus on my boxing matchs & meet up with different girls Like I used to but I'm the kind of guy that likes having a relationship & through I left that Behide when I was younger. Just confused!!??

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    • ccjigsaw

      I wouldn't change up to being the guy who just sleeps around again. I feel like if she's not putting the effort into the relationship it might be time to let go. It's going to hurt bad, but these things happen. I personally would still be wondering abotu that photo if I were in your shoes, and the lack of trust that comes from little things like that would eventually wear the realtionship down anyways. You sound like a good guy, and there are alot of good girls out there if you take the time to look.

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