Is it normal to snoop throught your lover's phone

I used to think that it was right to share absolutely everything with the other person and have him do the same thing. I used to think that I would never have a need for privacy or keeping things to myself.

I was wrong. Dead wrong.

Everybody has a need for privacy, and nobody can deny them that. If they try, they don't respect you or trust you and they're not worth being with.

Personally, I don't have anything to hide from my boyfriend, but that still doesn't mean I want him to go through my emails, facebook conversations, SMS, etc without my knowledge. I don't hide my passwords from him though, and he could access every account I have if he wanted to, but just like he trusts me not to have any bad secrets, I trust him not to read my shit without me knowing.
It's all about thhose two things: respect and trust. They should be mutual and come naturally. If you need to ask for either from your partner, the relationship is pointless.

And FYI: The reason I don't tell or show him everything related to myself is that I don't find everything relevant. I've known him for so long now that I know what he's interested in, and what not. And there's really no point in me telling him what I talked with my girlfriend about yesterday or where I went that day and what I was doing at that time. I'm very selective of what information I give to people, based on their interests, relationhip to me, personality, etc. I don't want to waste mine or anybody else's time, telling them things that have no point being told.

So to sum up: No, if somebody doesn't want to tell you absolutely everything going on in their life, it doesn't automatically mean they're cheating. It might just mean that they don't see the point in it, or that it's private, or unrelated to that person, or whatever. There can be a million reasons not to tell somebody something, no matter how close you are to that person.
Yes, it is disrespectful to snoop through somebody's private property. If you have any suspicions, ask. Simply ask. Don't do anything behind his or her back.

No, if you have a serious suspicion you might aswell ask your boy/girlfriend about it and if he/she denies it, you can still demand to see the phone.

I believe cheating is always wrong, but is it really so hard to get rid of the evidence? If you don't find anything on the phone you still don't know. He/She might just be smart.

No, it's not polite. If you suspect him of cheating, you'd be much better off hiring a private investigator.

Most definitely uncool. But you knew that already, didn't you?

I wouldn't do that unless you suspect the person is cheating. If things have gotten to that point the relationship most likely already has problems.

I'm happily single but if I had a partner I wouldn't mind him looking through my phone because I've got nothing to hide. Now, having said that I don't want anyone going through my things behind my back because that's spying. My journal is off limits to everyone all the time. But the phone, well my frog prince can just ask and I'll hand it over right then and there. Assuming of course that that he would do me the same courtesy.

Life and love are two way streets. Don't expect or demand something from someone that you wouldn't happily give in return.

Now if a person's got something to hide and wouldn't want his or her partner looking through said person's personal belongings, like a cell phone for example, then that's just plain selfish and hypocritical!

Fuck that!

DO IT!

Let me tell you why :

So many people today are lying cheating trash and the fact that you suspect him/her tells you something's not right even if only subconsciously.

TRUST YOUR INSTINCTS.

That's how I found out two of my gf's had cheated on me or were trying to.

I subconsciously or consciously knew something was wrong... You can tell if you really have a good relationship BEFORE they cheat because their behavior even if ever so slight changes. Everyone's human and unless you've got mental problems you've got a conscience and it will reveal your evil deeds to the one you betrayed. Girls often deny, over react or start crying and panicking. Most of the time they'll never tell you unless it's obvious meaning they're acting so guilty you'd be a fool to not know.

So when I was looking in my girl's eyes she looked different. A little off, something I'd never seen before. She had just gotten back from vacation. So I tried talking to her but she kept saying nothing's wrong.. blah blah blah, I just miss you honey, etc. etc. etc. BULLSHIT.

So when she went to the bathroom I read her shit and found out.
I dumped that dumb bitch and sent her into trauma for months.
She later turned into a total slut as many guys around town told me.

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When I get a gf she gets full access to my phone, emails or anything she wants any time.
You know why?

I have nothing to hide.

In fact I'm glad if she wants to check up on me because then she'll know I'm not cheating on her and not hiding anything.

If a girl/guy doesn't show you everything on their phone, email, facebook, twitter/whatever they're hiding shit from you, meaning they're flirting and trying to hook up or they've already hooked up.

Another gf I was dating didn't want me to have access to her facebook or email but I got it without her knowing and sure enough that bitch was flirting with some other guy. That woman wanted to marry me (she asked me).

OH HELLLLL NO BITCH !

Those are the two girls in my life that I know for sure cheated on me. There might be one more.

Keeping anything secret from the person you're supposed to be in love with and have their trust in you is just wrong.
Even a diary. Why the hell would you keep a secret world of your REAL thoughts and feelings from the person you claim to love and who is supposed to love and accept you unconditionally?

So some of you girls would keep secrets from your guy but you want him to trust and marry you with his entire life?

That's insane.

That's one of the things you're supposed to share with that person.

Are trying to perpetrate a fraud?
Pretending to be something you're not?
Why mislead your guy/girl?

Don't think they're gonna accept you? Then you're with the wrong person.

Most girls and guys are selfish untrustworthy trash and cannot be trusted.

If they think they can get away with it they'll do it in most cases.

I would NEVER take a girl seriously if she doesn't give me access to her shit. If she's got nothing to hide then she'd gladly want to prove herself to me.

With all the STDs today, your cheating lover can kill you.

DO IT.

It's becoming more and more apparent that I shouldn't wasting my time trying to communicate with people of low intelligence.

If you aren't even able to correctly comprehend a situation or what I've written please don't respond.

I snoop through every phone I can, parents, friends, partners, even strangers if I'm able.

It's the same reason I go through people's rooms, I get all buzzy and just want to see hidden things. I've found some really weird shit.

It's pretty uncool. A good relationship would involve open communication, trust, and truthfulness.

If you're so distrusting that you feel the need to look through their private, personal stuff, you're in a bad relationship that isn't working and needs change or severance.

Not cool, but very normal.

I think most people are hitting not normal because it's disrespectful and frowned upon (which it is)

However, it is indeed normal.

Yes, but only if you're a pervert. It's not good if you're doing it out of insecurity.

Only if you have concrete reasons to not trust them but even then i would still not do it.