Is it normal to sleep with someone because your friend told you to?
I was seeing this guy, J, ages ago. We were seeing each other for a while but we only has sex once, as he had an extremely large penis which made it impossible for us to have sex (the time we did manage it, I was completely anesthetised with alcohol and I barely even remember it). This was an open relationship, and he knew I was seeing other guys - a very casual thing. However, I did know that he was pretty much in love with me, or would have been if I'd let him and not kept him at a distance. He introduced me to his flatmate L, and we just hit it off ridiculously - loads in common, completely on a level. I didn't really think about L on account of him being J's flatmate and best friend, but I was attracted to him when I saw him. I broke up with J around xmas, and we didn#t see achother for a couple months. When we did see each other again, it was basically as friends, but I'd sleep in his bed and we'd kiss sometimes and stuff. This whole situation might be hard for people to understand, so in a nutshell I'd say we're all very liberal and forward thinking and we were just rolling with the punches.
Me and L would often stay up talking after J had gone to bed, and a few weeks ago, J asked me if I was interested in L. I kinda shrugged off the question "he's a good looking guy, what can I say?" and J went on to say that if I did want to get with him, he wouldn't stand in the way. I know that J has feelings for me, so I didn't take it too seriously, but around that time I did start thinking about actually doing something about my attraction to L. I mean, J had said it's ok, why shouldn't I take his words at face value? No one forced him to say it,a nd if the roles were reversed, I certainly wouldn't have done.
Me and L started talking more without J being there, and a few days ago I met up with L, J, and their friends, as L's guest rather than J's (a first). To cut an already long story short, L started kissing me, and we went back to his and had sex. L said that J had also talked to him and said it would be ok.
Right. So yesterday, J starts talking to me on Facebook chat. He was very much acting as if he was ok, but I could tell that he totally wasn't. He said that L had made a move on me because he'd told him to so that J was free to get with other chicks. This doesn't ring true for me at all, as before I walked off with L J had been quite touchy feely with me, and I know how much he liked me, but it still made me paranoid.
L is a very strong minded individual type of person and I don't think he'd do that, especially considering how well we get on, but I can't help wondering. Would a guy really sleep with a girl because his friend told him to? Or is J just saying that to try and make himself feel better, and to feel that he has control over the situation?
Thanks for reading