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I'm 18 and almost a year ago now I broke up with my boyfriend who I was with for two years and lost my virginity to. Since we broke up I've had sex with 14 other guys. Most of them I was pretty fucked up! Am I a slut? I have said no to a lot of them but if they're persistent I just always give in to them, I hate it!
Is there any help for me!?
Oh and sleeping with 14 guys is not a lot. I know girls who sleep with one guy, then another the next night, go back and forth between friends and don't tell them... And don't even know their ''number.'' one of them even sleeps with married men, and within a month of starting a new job slept with 3 guys at work and more guys outside of work until one became her ''boyfriend''
oh and:
"a key that unlocks alot of locks is a master key. a lock that is unlocked by alot of keys is a shitty lock"
Why do all of you care? It's her body. She can do what she wants with it. I know some of you do drugs...I don't see the difference. We choose what happens with our bodies.
come on, you are a slut and you already know this that is why you are asking. For these people who say you aren't I would be curious of what their definition of one is.
I'm 22 and i've been with at least 200 guys, maybe more. Almost all of my friends have done 30-40 guys and upward. Once, on holiday in Ibiza, we must have slept with roughly 50 dudes between us (there were four of us). Never in a million years will i be able to tell a future partner about any of this. Hell, not even i would marry me. I do feel like a total whore sometimes, but i try not to think about it. And alcihol rarely played a part. One of my girlfriends has done all kinds of fucked up shit because she was completely wasted, like letting a whole frat house do her without her recalling nothing the next day. Not me. I screw around sober for the most part, and even though it make me feel bad about myself i just can't stop it. I'll open my legs for almost anyone cos ut feels so damned good while it lasts.
Here is a little reality for you, no matter what people try and convince you I can guarantee you that you are known as a slut in your school. Some women want to make it equal and say you are a stud, no, when the boys talk of you at school you are a slut . When they need to get off they will see you. They might date you for awhile but I can guarantee you it is done because it is now known that you are easy. You have put a brand on yourself for as long as you live there. You may try and kid yourself, nut before you started taking on all cummers, if you would have heard about a girl who was taking on as many guys as you have, what would you have thought? You need to find some self esteem, it is obvious sleeping with all these guys has bothered you or else you wouldn't be writing this.
you should seriously wait till yuo are married to have sex because boyfriends come and go but a true husband will be there for better or for worse
Sounds like a low sense of self worth- the whole 'giving in' thing. If u don't want to do something, you have every right not too! Those guys are sleaze bags trying to pressure you into it. What is it in you that makes you not see your own value? Yes there is hope- work on yourself. Getting fucked up and sleeping around is just running from whatever you're trying not to face.
you sound like me. I feel like a whore but really, sex is natural. its healthy.
You are not a slut. I think you are just trying to cover up your pain. But, why be with manwhores? Use protection. You don't know who else those manwhores have been with.
I don't think you're a slut. I just think you have slut tendencies. Always use protection.
I think what makes a slut is the way you act, chasing guys and sleeping with anyone. It's a lack of standards and not caring if they are in a relationship, use protection, are attractive.
That's normal. We have our parts down there so we can use them :p
Your not a slut your just using your body correctly ha
No, you are not a slut. Is a man who has sex with that many women a "slut"? No. You aren't either. If you are questioning yourself, you should look at why you are doing it. Are you lonely? Do you have low self esteem? Are you trying to forget about a past relationship? If so, then you should focus on yourself and try to fix the problem rather than engage in meaningless sex. Do you just like how it fucking feels? Love to fuck? Then do it! Fuck what people think. The word "slut" shouldn't even fucking exist.
Guys are persistent because they know you may give in. They know you are frequently having sex with different people. Also the people you have sex with would see the rest as a right. If you plan to have sex in the future keep it as a secret between you and your friend. If he tells about your experience to other people blame him for lying.
Yeah, because you're a retard. No, even retards are more dignified than you!
slut and whore are just words, does anyone really care anymore? lets just call you promiscuous lol
The only reason its not normal is because you said "I hate it." So, its not ok. You're not bad, you just need to get your house in order.
At least you don't like what your doing, it's a good sing that you'll stop... There's this girl at my school, she makes SUCH a big thing about the amount of guys she sleeps with...I can't stand her.
It's not the numbers that are a concern, it's that to have sex with them you were "pretty fucked up." Some serious self-loathing here.
It all likely happened after and likely because of your breakup. It seems to me you're desperate to get back into another relationship.
The thing that matters is that you say you hate it. You should seek some type of professional counseling.
dont listen to these people who say youre a slut...they probably are just jealous because they couldnt have that many partners in a lifetime...
Some people just like to love. Just be careful and you can have alot of fun with one guy.
Who gives a fuuck what anyone else thinks. Do what you want, just be smart about it.
I'm sorry...But the truth is...you are a slot.You need to learn to respect yourself....
14 is a ltl much. But you lost it to someone you were with for 2 years. It's okay to get out there just with less people lol
If you feel guilty about i afterwards then you're not a whore...only whores enjoy it and don't feel bad about what they have done.
It's normal don't listen to men they don't know sh!t. Almost ever girl goes from guy to guy after a break up. Expecially of you've been heartbroken. I'm not a slut but I had some slut tendancies when I was hurt. Lol just spend sometime with yourself . You will never fill the emptiness by sleeping with a man. You need to love yourself because it seems to me that u don't. I've been there
I get it that you're depressed you lost your boyfriend but more one and find someone else..... Don't go being a slut and sleeping with everyone you find. :)
I don't think you're a slut. You're normal. Have sex, it's normal, just enjoy it! Can I call you? :)
A male can sleep with hundreds of females in a short period of time and be viewed as virile and an exciting "player". A female can sleep with hundreds of men in a short period of time and be viewed as loose and nasty. Although this situation is unfair, there is a reason for it that is just plain, common sense. I will leave you with these words:
"And I can't die easy thinking maybe the menfolks white or black is making a spit cup out of you. Have some sympathy for me. Put me down easy, Janie, I'm a cracked plate."
— Zora Neale Hurston (Their Eyes Were Watching God)
Pls make me your 15th free fucker sorry I mean boyfriend...........thanks in advance
I'm sorry but if you were to get pregnant and you wouldn't be able to know who the father was.... you would be a slut.
Also generally the less interaction you have with a guy before you sex, the higher likelyhood you are a slut. 14 wouldn't be weird if it was like 14 second or third dates but I'm assuming these were randos.
oh and guys slut isn't relative. just because you have a friend who is a massive slut doesn't make the person you're comparing them to any less of one.
I don't think she is it could be over a year span I have been with 14 guys I didn't start til I was 17 There could be gaps I know I haven't slept with every guy I met I have said no and times I should have but gave in and I got an STD after when I had lucky number 7 He was arrogant and believed he didn't have anything cus he didn't have symptoms I was 19 when I was diagnosed with my STD and I have to take pills for the rest of my life and have a c- section and guys freak out when I say hey this is my situation just be careful girl begin to Speak up and realize if it could happen to me it sure can happen to any one of u today I'm ok with what I have I had guys call me a slut because they didn't know the facts or the situation and I just have kept my head up learned to forgive myself for being so weak then it was my learning experience. But I think ure normal but be sure to Stand up for ureself and speak up
It is strange, yes. You might be one of those people who give in easily. Most people don't look for other guys for a while, but maybe you are the opposite. However you are, it's normal.
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Just relax and have fun. If I'm wearing a duck, does that mean I'm a duck fiend? You'll slow way down one day so it won't always be like this.
Girl, where i came from we call those type of girls motherfucking WHORES
Don't listen to those guys. Your sexuality is not for anyone else to judge. It is your body and no one can judge you based on what you do with it. Or at least they wouldn't if they weren't such judgemental dicks.
You are fine. My only concern is that you seem to hate it. If you don't like it, then stop! Don't be convinced to do something that you don't like.
If you DO like it, then don't worry. have fun.
Sex is not a dirty thing to be ashamed of. Tell me, what is the difference between a girl who has sex with her boyfriend every day 365 days a year, and the girl who sleeps with 20 men only once? Who is judged to be the slut? Strangely the girl who has had sex only 20 times. Not the one who has had it 365.
Don't worry, it's completely normal and your decision.
Your a slut in there minds but who cares. If you don't want it get some balls (figuritively) and stop fucking eveyone. If you like it then use protection and knock yourself out.
Umm it's called self control. Get ya some! Try not getting wasted... before something really bad happens to you.