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When my teen (15 years old) does something somewhat bad, I will punish him by sending him to his room...is that a good punishment? is it normal???
Crazy US people. I note that you are one of the only countries that still think spanking your child is a good idea. That'll learn him! Stuff the WORLD research that says otherwise.
Here's an idea. TALK to him about what he did wrong.
Maybe he hasn't learned right from wrong clearly yet.
Let him know why it is wrong where you are, and how people live together in a community or home.
15 (just like my son) is a difficult age. But they are not beyond reason. You know similar to a 5yo.
Punishment? That's for the law to decide.
At home its about guidance and communication.
Good luck with learning that. From what I have gathered it may take you years to understand.
hay Dad i didnt know you where on here its me your my father remember that time you forgot to wear a condom while fucking that hooker IM THE MISTAKE!
I knew this would come bite me in the ass one day!
Wait a minute, I've never been with no two bit hooker.
And where do you get off calling your Mom names like that?
When I get home, you are going to get it!. Oh yeah, I mean a good talking to ;)
You are not a bastard. It was LOVE :)
Just saying, most kids and teenagers won't give two fucks what you say to them about being a good member of the community.
That's why you have to punish them, if you talk to them they'll just tune you out and tell their friends how lame their parents are or something.
Sad, but true.
Yes but the 'talking to', should be first on the list, in all cases.
I mean generally 'boys' do get up to mischief when young (girls too of course, but possibly not as bad when very young) Anyway, they don't stay this way forever because they LEARN through communication and society that its just not accepted. So the talk should still be given to those who don't fully accept it yet.
His room? Where his cell phone, TV, bed, and computer is? Right. Doesn't seem like much of a punishment for his age to be honest..
I still think the way I was raised worked just fine. You break a rule, you get your ass whooped.
My parents had very specific rules set, and I knew exactly what would happen if I broke one. Guess how many times it took me to learn? I screwed up one time, and that was that!
I was raised the same way except by ass was whooped by nuns, so much worse.
I can honestly not say that I have any idea what a nun ass whooping involves! Is it anything like the nun beating the shit out of the blues brothers in the movie for cussing?
I don't really see the problem. A good one will probably be to put him in "time-out" for a certain amount of time in a corner or in some other room. While he waits he can think about things.
I would make him do something like an extra chore or take away something he really likes.
Yeah, thats a younger kid punishment, at 15 its more about taking away priviledges or not giving money
Does your son hate his room? If not it's probably a stupid punishment. If your son hates his room, that's stupid too.
It's a punishment unless he has a laptop. Or a TV. Or an Xbox, Nintendo... phone...
You get my point.
Your son got it made I used to get the belt or bar of soap in the mouth oh and can't forget the hour or hours of haveing to sit at the table.
It depends on him. Only you really know your child, and what is best for him when it comes to punishment. Just like time out works on some small children, while others it doesn't, it depends on the kid. Does sending him to his room seem to be working? Have you seen a change in his behavior since you've been doing that? If not, then you might try another strategy.
Ohh my gosh you just reminded me of when my mum used to make my brother and I sit in the laundry for 30+ mins when we did something wrong. THAT was a shit punishment (for us).
Nahh. Like someone already stated, his room is probably like a playground basically. I'm sure he has a tv, numerous video games, computer, cell phone, etc.
Plus, a fifteen year old is too old to be sent to their room..in my opinion.
Try something else, like taking away privileges.
I honestly don't know. I'm not a parent and, as a child, I wanted as far away from my parents as I could possibly be. In some ways, it doesn't seem like a punishment. I'm a grown man now and there are plenty of times in my life where I growl and think, "I wish I could go to my room".
Sending a 15 year old to their room isn't going to do anything, and neither is spanking.