Is it normal to say this to someone i haven't seen in 7-8 years?

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I had messaged this guy on facebook a few times that I once knew and had a crush on about 7 years ago since we went to the same school.He never replied even though he saw my messages so I got fed up of rejection and said "I am deleting you off facebook because it's rude of you to not reply and u are the same as you were years ago- you think you are too 'cool' to associate with certain people'. 'Sorry for adding you'. Note - I said what I said because I once asked him to dance with me but he rejected me cause I was not the same year as him basically, so I suppose that wasn't cool in his eyes! I have also seen him in pics with the same girls to this day that were classed as 'cool' back when we went to school because they were popular and the same age. He finally replied though haha! He said "I don't know you, I'm sorry I'm really busy with work ect..and I hardly know u at all, it's easy to forget to reply, this is way too intense. I don't expect to be lectured on fb for forgetting to reply to someone I haven't't seen in 7-8 years. Is what i said too intense!??? I don't think so but maybe I was? I was just being straight up though.

NOT intense at all 6
TOO Intense 32
Maybe a little intense 19
Not intense to me but I can understand his point 9
Not sure 2
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  • Shoefish
    10 years ago | pl

    His reply was quite polite, considering how crazy you sound. Sorry.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      Why am I crazy for expressing how I feel and how he made me feel? I would like to know your explanation please...

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      • Shoefish
        10 years ago

        Because you're hung up on someone you haven't seen for 7 years. Someone it sounds like you never had any sort of relationship with. It's pretty weird of you to keep messaging him after he didn't reply. The message you sent about him being 'too cool' comes across as nuts. Perhaps he was that sort of person at school but that doesn't mean he still is and it doesn't mean he owes you anything. You can't just go around demanding people like you. You're not important to him and there's nothing wrong with that. Now he will think you've been doing nothing with your life but obsessing over him for years.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          10 years ago

          I am NOT HUNG UP ON HIM OK! I just got annoyed at his rudeness! FFS it's rude of someone to see a frikn message and not reply ok- I always make sure I reply to every one that messages me.

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          • Shoefish
            10 years ago

            Calm down. You asked and I don't agree with you. I don't think it's rude of him to ignore your messages. I only use Facebook for actual friends and I don't like others contacting me on there. Perhaps he feels the same way. So I will say that he shouldn't have accepted your friend request but he has the right to choose who he talks to.

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            • Anonymous Post Author
              10 years ago

              Well I feel it is very rude because it is. And he did accept it and I never said anything about rights but decency.

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  • ThisIsImpossible
    10 years ago

    You know they make vibrators and shit now, or you could just walk outside your door and tell people you have a vagina and it's open for volunteers. You don't have to act so thirsty, you sound like a psycho.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      What the fuck makes me a psycho?? Please elaborate...I was making a point! Why can't anyone see that- what if he does think he's too cool to be seen with me just because I am not a sissy girl. It's ridiculous, I mean he didn't deny it so maybe I'm right.

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      • ThisIsImpossible
        10 years ago

        Because he was either too busy or he didnt care, that means he obviously doesnt like you that much, he doesnt have to if he doesnt want to, and it doesnt matter why. You could've moved on with your life, instead you got all butthurt. Really if he didnt like you because you werent cool enough (even though theres no evidence, just an assumption made by you has been given.), you should have enough self esteem to know its his loss, your little fit you threw at him showed him quite plainly to know youre very sensitive to judgement and rejection, especially consideringthe only rejection you received was an ignored messege, so, ANOTHER assumption, made by you. Are you still following me? Maybe he just isnt into you, and maybe he doesnt owe you anything because of it.

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        • ThisIsImpossible
          10 years ago

          Sorry for the shitty grammar im on a phone and im too lazy to edit everything.

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          • ThisIsImpossible
            10 years ago

            Also I refuse to vote on your poll because you're ruining tbe word "intense" and I'll not be a part of it.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          10 years ago

          Then why did he accept my friend request to begin with if he didn't 'like' me that much! I have moved on with my life thank you, was just wondering what people's views on what I said were! It was NOT a fit but a mere reflection of his behavior. Other people I have asked said that he is the dick head so being so shallow O.o so why are you all up in the air over this and please do say how am I supposedly "ruining" the word intense? Definition of Intense- Having extreme force or degree. Thus I conclude this word fits perfectly in this context.

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          • ThisIsImpossible
            10 years ago

            Saying he's just like he was a decade ago? C'mon man, you werent commenting his behaviour, you were letting out shit thats beem bothering you forever because you still like him, and you still think he should like you too and youre too selfish and insecure to accept that he doesnt like you and that he doesnt have to explaon himself to you. If you still dont get it, that's why i called you a psycho.

            Reading the word so many times so close together over something that isnt even intense is whats ruining it for me, you arent using the word incorrectly I gues.

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            • Anonymous Post Author
              10 years ago

              I was doing both thanks- commenting his behavior as well as releasing shit if you wish to say. I NEVER said that he SHOULD like me wtf O.o Intense is more than appropriate thanks.

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    I have to close one eye to see the screen properly right now.....

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  • SHAKEStheClown
    10 years ago

    Hella too intense, needy and kinda creepy.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      Also how is that needy when I deleted him hahahaha ! What I did was the total Opposite O.o

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      Okay maybe intense but how the hell creepy or needy? A creep is someone that stalks someone like everyday or watches them- haha I don't do that shit. A needy person is someone who CONSTANTLY txts or hassles a person, NOTE- I messaged him a FEW times over a matter of months. How the fuk does that make me Needy?

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  • thegypsysailor
    10 years ago

    You must have an anger management problem. For christ's sake, there are other things in some people's lives other than facebook and YOU.
    Get a grip and a life.

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  • st2013de
    10 years ago

    He doesn't have to talk to you. Boys on Facebook get annoyed when you don't reply but we've always been told to not talk to strangers, he mustn't have remembered you.

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  • lemoncity
    10 years ago

    It was kind of intense honestly, although there's nothing wrong with remembering things from a long time ago.

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  • reality84
    10 years ago

    you have to hide some comments i would suggest you do that.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      Why? and I don't know how to anyways.

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  • Incomplet
    10 years ago

    OP, it's pretty much an unspoken rule that you don't announce to people that you're deleting them. Particularly those who you haven't spoken to for more than half a decade. If you're looking for an apology, this isn't the best of ways to go at it.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      Pardon, I didn't quite understand what ur saying because of your grammar..?

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      • Incomplet
        10 years ago

        Your berating attempt to force an apology out of him is tactless. I agree with the others. I'm sorry if it offends you, ma'am.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          10 years ago

          I was never trying to force an apology let alone even get one. All I wanted was to reflect my point of view in a manner that would capture his attention which did so my plan worked after all.

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          • Incomplet
            10 years ago

            Regardles of intention, your approach is still tactless/intense in nature.

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  • jeebley
    10 years ago

    Hey OP, I don't think you're thaaaaaaat crazy. I think for future reference, send two messages at most. If there's still no response, then they can forget it.

    I think you just made an effort to get in contact, got frustrated...(maybe built it up in your mind a little bit too much) and then sent the last message. I don't even think it was that crazy, that's just how it came across. After all, it was rude of him not to reply. (But his lack of response was kind of a response in itself).
    You might just want to be a bit more....aloof. That's all.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      Well thanks for clearing that up I do appreciate it considering most the replies I have gotten on here are disgustingly rude. I wanted opinions. NOT to be trashed beyond the point.

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      • jeebley
        10 years ago

        They were a bit unfairly rough! (I think sometimes the first few comments kind of set the tone for the rest). I could see myself doing something similar to what you did... I've had to learn to not be so direct sometimes.

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  • RoseIsabella
    10 years ago

    Yet another example of why I'm not keen to use Facebook. You sound like a future psycho ex girlfriend wannabe. Ugh!
    :-/

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      Why? Because I expressed how I feel- which is possibly correct information since he didn't deny that he thinks he's too 'cool' O.o Why don't you think it's rude of him- you obviously missed something in my post or didn't read it properly.

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