Is it normal to ruin my masturbation with thoughts i don't want to have?

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Ever since I was young and started masturbating (around 15 years old), I can't help but sabotage it for myself at the climax by having thoughts I don't want to have. I don't mean weird fetish stuff, but thoughts like "what if my mom dies soon" or images like my dead aunt.

These are images and thoughts I absolutely don't want to have, and don't help with the fun of it all, of course. But I can't seem to help it. This has been going on for over 10 years now, so I've made peace with it, I guess.

I think it's some self-sabotage thing, happening because of some sort masturbation-guilt. Is this a rare thing, or do other people have something similair?

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  • DIO
    4 years ago

    AHAHAHAHAHAHAHAH !

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  • Boojum
    4 years ago

    I have no personal experience of this, but your suspicion that it's about guilt makes sense to me.

    I also suspect that this might be one of those vicious-circle things where the more you think about it happening, the more likely it is to happen. (I also find it interesting how the two specific intrusive thoughts you mention relate to the death of close female relatives - very Freudian, bro.)

    Breaking the cycle of any sort of unwelcome thoughts that are triggered by something you do can be very difficult, and when sex is involved it gets even more complicated. I wonder what would happen if you tried to change your focus from having a goal of reaching orgasm when you masturbate to an approach where you went into it with the intention of just enjoying the pleasurable sensations, making them last as long as you can and thinking of ejaculation as just something that might or might not happen.

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  • LornaMae
    4 years ago

    If it's on Friends it's normal.

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  • oldgoat65
    4 years ago

    are you catholic?

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  • d0esnormalmatter
    4 years ago

    See this makes no sense. You should be able to get to a point where arousal is no longer required. Once you reach the "point of no return" stimulation alone will get you to an orgasm and the only way to not cum is to stop jerking.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      4 years ago

      Oh, it happens allright. It's just as you say: the arousal is gone, but it happens anyway. I'm building up to it, which is nice, and at the climax the thoughts are coming in and i'm like "meh".

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      • d0esnormalmatter
        4 years ago

        Hmmm. Don't know what to say lol.

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