Is it normal to remember someone you only know from texting ?

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I know it's not and I dont really care but I rather wanna hear what you, the community, expierenced and what you think about it

here is my story,

I met her on a rather unknown dating site when I was desperate for anyone and
I've known her for a Year and almost a half now,
I know her only from 2 pictures and I heard her on phone one time only. Maybe she is screwing with me or is not even a girl but the way she texts doesnt seem like that at all,
anyway.

My heart and body are with someone else but I still think about this girl and I really wanna see her becaue I am still not sure about her identity.
She said she has no fb and then I found a girl with her name and exact same state origin.
She could be fake and be someone else or she speaks the truth that its a misunderstanding.

We never met but the way she texts is still in me,
maybe cuz I got used to texting rather than talk when I got older or so but I really liked the way we used to talk.
We havent had contact in 6 Months and she still is on my mind like what is she doing, I've told her how I felt and got rejected, there are zero signs she feels the same but she feels like a great person to me even though that thought disgusts me sometimes because it just seems like fantasy.

Maybe its the sentimental moments I felt for her and shared with her but Im not sure and I guess I will never know because its against my principles to find out who she is.
Like she is not worth it and I shouldnt be so interested if she doesnt care about my life, either.

She did help me out and I thank her but that should be it,
don't you think so, too ?

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  • LornaMae
    10 years ago

    Dude, your story is all over the place.

    Let's sort it out, shall we? You already say you know it's not normal before we even get a chance to tell you what we think, so you already have your mind made up since line one.

    If you met her when you were desperate for anyone, I can't see she could have made such an impact on you; after all, it was just the first person willing to talk to you. It seems strange that you've only seen two pics of her and spoken just once and feel that way. You don't mention if she has seen pics of you or if you tried to speak with her on other occasions.

    You say your heart is with someone else but still keep thinking of this other girl. Sounds like your heart is not exactly there, is it? That's extremely unfair to that other person. And you want to see her??? What about the one you are with now? That's not cool, not cool at all. It's normal to wonder "what if" but to get together while in another relationship is wrong on several levels.

    You say you you don't know about her identity (what kind of dating site is that anyway?) and that it is against your principles to find out who she is but you also say you have found someone with the same name and state of origin. So which is it? And why did you not know her identity? Did she know yours?

    Now, why is it you never met? Is there a particular reason? Wait, were you even in a relationship? Because if you were, considering how long you say you've talked, you should have made plans to meet and move forward with it by then. I mean, if you both were serious anyway.

    What exactly did you say when you told her how you felt? Are you saying your feelings were never corresponded and you never were in an actual relationship? Or is it that when you stopped talking you told her how you felt she wasn't on the same page? Why have you stopped talking altogether? How did you get rejected? How are you "reading the signs"?

    And, dude, wait. She feels like a great person and you're disgusted by it? Come again?

    You may find she is not worth it, but is that all because she, as you said, doesn't care about your life "either" (which would mean you don't really care about hers to begin with)? Come on, you're with someone else. And what does it matter if she doesn't want to know about your life when you clearly don't really want to know about hers? Maybe you're just missing the attention...

    Ugh.

    See? Your whole story is made out of contradictions. I don't get it. I'm not even sure why I just wrote this, because if you read like you write it will have been completely pointless.

    TL;DR:

    To answer your only real question here: Yes, texting and having a relationship of sorts is something that can be very meaningful to you, especially if they are the first person you ever text like that. But if it doesn't ever progress it *is* just a fantasy and not worth the time, in my opinion. If it didn't work out, it didn't work out. Not much to do. Unless you are absolutely positive of how you feel. Then it's always worth a try. But it has to be one hell of a try. Being as indecisive as you are, I'd say let it go.

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    • x6tence
      10 years ago

      ive tried calling her, sent her endless pictures and letters, sent her stuff, tried making out a meeting but no use if she doesnt like me that way

      i think of her as astupid friend with that what if sometimes, i never rly let go cuz i want to know the truth if i was screwed with.
      she lives at the other side of my country and i dont want to use my means just to see where she lives but ur post actually encouraged me to find out if she isnt fake maybe i was just so scared she wouldnt like me if she sees me cuz somewhere i think she is real,
      she said that fb is her cousin, she would do alot together with family

      and yeah it was a pointless rant
      i appreciate ur thoughtful and emotional comment very much, actually been waiting for something like this

      keep going thx

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      • LornaMae
        10 years ago

        So you never had anything, she was just a friend to you. That happens... Sadly, not everybody we like likes us back.

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        • x6tence
          10 years ago

          yes it does, things happen for a reason and sometimes u r just not meant for each orher like 2 strangers would never cross each other paths cuz they r not meant to

          thx for ur understandinf response

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  • Jimbro
    10 years ago

    Email catfish so you can meet the person face to face.

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    • x6tence
      10 years ago

      dont know that

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      • Jimbro
        10 years ago

        It's a TV show that covers stories like yours. It's worth a watch it may help you.

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  • Thelaconicallsocialist
    10 years ago

    Your grammar amuses me.

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    • x6tence
      10 years ago

      in my story or my answers ? thx :)

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  • ifonlyuknew247
    10 years ago

    Sad.

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    • x6tence
      10 years ago

      yes it is

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      • ifonlyuknew247
        10 years ago

        I feel bad for the person who you are deceiving. They think they have a chance, but you really have your heart set on someone else who doesn't even care to really know you, someone you don't even really know, a complete fantasy. This fantasy is feeding her ego (she may have a boyfriend too, maybe she even lives with h) and you're giving her all this attention & energy that should be reserved for the person you're using as a placeholder. It must be torture knowing how wrong & ridiculous this is. Pretend some friend of yours is telling you this story and its not you. What would you tell that person? A bird in the hand is worth two in the bush. And it's worth way more than any fake birds that you only see half of their wing and like 2/3 of their beak & you don't even know if its a real bird or a roach with wings or a Jack Russell terrier.

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        • x6tence
          10 years ago

          i would feel bad if it was like that but I see it as thought and my right to know if shes real, i dont like her that way anymore and only think of her when im bored

          shes in the past when it comed to romantic feelings but i wonder if i remember her cuz i hold a grugde

          I understand ur anger i feel that way too, why would u be with someone if u dont love him and want to fuck someone else !

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  • halfemptyhalffull
    10 years ago

    It sounds like you want her to want you and you like her because she doesn't (want you)
    it gets a normal from me

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    • x6tence
      10 years ago

      todays society is unnormal !

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      • halfemptyhalffull
        10 years ago

        But what IS normal?
        Society as a whole is talking about things more and more, so I believe the concept of what is normal/not normal will blur.
        It's a good thing

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        • x6tence
          10 years ago

          ur being too liberal :D i like that tho, i was like u .
          normal is something u can morally accept then i will say

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          • halfemptyhalffull
            10 years ago

            "aim above morality....don't let the world judge you so much"-Maude from "Harold and Maude"

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            • x6tence
              10 years ago

              very good if I didnt judge myself for myself not for the world ! if u want a better world start wirh urself :)

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