Is it normal to regret stepping aside for your best friend?
Me best friend and I fell for the same girl. She's completely amazing and everything I've ever looked for in another person. He's known her for 4 years and I've known her for about 3. They're best friends and once I met him, he quickly became my best friend. She and I have always had this chemistry together. We've always openly admitted we had feelings for each other. I never acted on it because I knew my friend had feelings for her as well, he just wasn't ready to admit it as he was afraid to ruin their friendship. She and I often talked about it, as she was suspecting he cared more for her than he was letting on because every time she would mention me, he'd get jealous or moody over it. I talked to her and she said that as selfish as it sounded, she was truly in love with both of us and if by some crazy chance the two of us went to her and said choose between us that she said she wouldn't be able to. He was still being quiet, so I ended up taking her on a date and a few days later, had a talk with my friend. I told him I was in love with her and wanted to be with her. He said it took him a while to realize it, but he was in love with her as well. I told him, if he wanted to be with her, I would stand aside. I didn't regret it then, I was happy to see them happy. However, now looking back on it, I'm starting to wonder if that was such a good idea. He knows how she feels about me and allows us to openly love each other (saying I love you to each other, nothing physical) which is great, but I feel a bit...bitter. I know I said it was fine and I'd step aside, but all I think when I see them together is that it should have been me instead. Is it normal to be regretful and bitter? It's starting to affect my friendship with him and I feel like a real jerk about it, but I think it's unfair he wasn't willing to make the same offer.