Is it normal to regret not impregnating my ex-wife?

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When I mention I had a divorce with no children, people usually say "you dodged a bullet" or something to that effect--but I still feel regret.

As our relationship in the marriage spiraled downward, she asked for kids. I said I didn't want our kids growing up with parents in a loveless relationship. We divorced.

I'm looking back on it and thinking if I had just said yes, she would feel differently about me, and I would have a normal family life. Instead, I'm divorced and alone.

On the plus side, I've had time to take up new hobbies, such as drinking and smoking.

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  • Ratmanforelife
    6 years ago

    Why look back? Having children adds pressure to a marriage. I'm blessed to be a father of two. I'm long divorced from their mother. And I certainly don't regret it. My life became a living hell because of not leaving because of our children who are adults now. I'm a grandfather. What was was. And what is is. Regret is a wasted emotion. Perk up bro! The reason that you are alone is because you sound like damaged goods. What woman would want that? So perk the fuck up! Another woman is waiting for you. Believe that. Because it's true.

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  • Nickvey
    6 years ago

    PS drinking and smoking are not all that bad. at least you are in control. you are just exercising your freedom of choice now.

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  • Nickvey
    6 years ago

    kids never save a marriage ever. let me explain. she didnt want you she wanted a child . the downward spiral relationship would have happened with a child want a billion examples? so when people say you dodged a bullet , they actually know for a fact you did. I always said if me and my first wife had had i child i could not have left her. and when i see that ugly hag at age 58 she has become on facebook i thank god everyday i divorced her . I mean fuck i kill myself if i was married to that. How can such a beautiful teenager turn into shriek?

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  • Ellenna
    6 years ago

    Either move on, with healthier hobbies than drinking and smoking, or see if you can re-connect with her. Maybe it's not too late for kids?

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  • e51pegasi
    6 years ago

    Move on my friend.

    Nothing is forever. My ex and I split up after 8 years of living together (no kids), 2 years later I'm the happiest I've ever been and everyone around me agrees.

    I can now do what I want when I want to. I can live how I want to rather than what society wants/expects.

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  • Vulpix
    6 years ago

    I was married for seven years and I don't think I had sex more than one hundred times. She also made me use a condom every time.

    I also never had sex before I was married.

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    • Nickvey
      6 years ago

      you poor bastard , you never cum in her? id divorced her ass in a heartbeat. If the shit stinks bad the first time what makes you think the smell would get better? that sucks you never got to cum in a woman. That's not your fault either. thats her fault.

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    • yesnomaybeso
      6 years ago

      That doesn't sound exciting :(

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  • FANTABULOUS
    6 years ago

    Do you still love your ex-wife?

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    • Vulpix
      6 years ago

      I do.

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  • Itiswhatitisfuxkwhatitwas
    6 years ago

    See if she'll take you back!

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    • Nickvey
      6 years ago

      Oh god , did you even listen ,married seven years and had sex one time a month and had to use a condom. hire a fucking hit man and spare the next guy.

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