Is it normal to regret my decision not to cheat?

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I am a single girl in first year uni, I have had a crush on the same guy for three years and he has had the same girlfriend the whole time! We have lots of mutual friends and see each other a lot, but I've never met his girlfriend! Last night we got into a bad situation where we were watching a movie in a group but then everyone left and went to bed except me and him. Halfway through the movie he asked me if he could put his arm around me. Even though I REALLY wanted him to, I said no and told him he couldn't cause he has a girlfriend. Would him putting his arm around me really be cheating? I thought I did the right thing but I have been miserable about turning him down ever since and I feel like I would be less guilty if I had just let him. Is it normal to regret making the "right" decision in this case? Any advice helps.

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  • Theadage
    11 years ago

    Girl, you just saved yourself some unnecessary drama.

    Ok, don't let him use you. If he doesn't have the guts to break it off with his girlfriend, and ask your permission to date you, he's not worth your time.

    First he puts his arm around you, then... etc. etc.

    You don't deserve to be treated that way, or to be his call girl. Too much respect for that, I congratulate you.

    You made a very smart decision... I know you feel like crap about it, but in the long run, it's worth it.

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  • davesumba
    11 years ago

    A guy with a girlfriend shouldn't have his hands on another girl any longer than a 2 second hug.

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  • thatperson1992
    11 years ago

    Do it

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  • annm2361
    11 years ago

    I've always regretting not doing something more than doing it. Ur gut reaction is what u should always trust ur a good person unlike most people today. Feel proud huni :) good luck

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