Is it normal to regret giving ex boyfriend this advice?

It has been a while before this since I had talked or hung out with my ex until I went to his dads birthday bbq. A week later we messaged on facebook and caught up with each other. He told me he was talking to someone and I was a little hurt but happy for him. He told me she had been talking to other guys which bothered him but didnt say anything. We had planned to hang out but she was against that and he told me he "respects her feelings". Keep in mind they weren't dating. Its nice of him to respect her feelings but when we were actually dating he never respected mine. So I guess you can say I was hurt and also the fact that its okay for her to talk to other guys which obviously means she didn't care about him.

We still messaged but it was dry. He had lost his phone but got a new one so he told me to text him. So we texted. One day he asked to hang out but in my head I was wondering about his other girl. We hung out and he told me he wasn't talking to her. He got tired of the other guys and told her he didnt want anything to do with her. She later egged his car and I don't think she should have went to that extreme. He was angry of course and hurt. We began hanging out and I can tell he has been heart broken. She has apologized recently but he said it wasn't sincere. It hurt me to see him that way and even though he has broke my heart so many times I didnt want to see him like that. So I told him that if she makes him happy he should give her another chance but this time he has to lay down some rules. He's given her so many chances but she really makes him happy. He might take it in to consideration and it kind of broke my heart but as long as hes happy again. I honestly don't think she deserves him and so far his parents did not yet meet her but doesn't approve. His mom is so sweet and I don't think the girl is good enough to meet her but at the end of the day its his choice. He was my first love and I will always love him and care for him. Btw she's still in high school and he graduated two years ago, me one. You think it was okay for me to give him that advice? To give her another chance even though I know he can do so much better.

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Comments ( 4 )
  • ProseAthlete

    You did the dignified, mature thing. You're the one who can do so much better, not him; he sounds pretty immature and selfish, frankly. What kind of guy goes to his ex-girlfriend for relationship advice when he knows she still loves him? That's just needlessly cold.

    You're right; you will always love him because he was your first serious relationship. However, loving him and being with him are two different things. It sounds like it hurts you to be around this guy and watch him get all heartbroken over someone else, so it might be time to cut ties, maybe? Distance yourself to protect yourself.

    You gave him wise advice. I don't know that he sounds like he's wise enough to take it, but that shouldn't be your problem. He's on his own now.

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  • Johnnytherat

    damn you girls talk alot -_- look if you need the D you know were 2 find me

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    • shuggy-chan

      False, they are pedo shuggy's prey back off

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      • Johnnytherat

        i'll bear mace you then give you a roundhouse to the jaw chuck norris style dont fk w/ the rat & his pooty tang

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