Is it normal to refuse love out of pure prejudice?

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So I'm in this very artistic program in college (graphic arts), although I'm not even remotely artistic, where the student body is literarely divided in three: the hipsters, the bitches and everyone in the middle. Being a fashion-obsessed socialite, I am definitely part of the bitches. People speak to each other cross-crew, but not a lot.

Last semester, I was with the same few people all the time in my classes, and there were about 20 people that I never saw (considering there are about 50 people in the program). Of these 20 people, there was this guy that everyone in my crew hated. Apparently, he was an attention-seeking hipster that talked really loudly and that bursted in everyone's conversations all the time.

This semester, however, this guy almost all of my classes. Although I don't hate him with a fiery passion like most of my friends do, I do find him freaking annoying at times (his constant need to draw attention to himself at all times is overwhelming). However, I also think he's by far the hottest guy in the program (I seem to be the only one to find him really attractive), and I heard by a few people that he was smitten by me.

One random day in class, I decided to text him and play a little with him. I'm sure how it happened, but we quickly started to become "text message friends" and things evolved insanely quickly. He told me tons of personal things about him, I told him some about me (sexual things, everything). Through our "text relationship", he haven't made it a secret that he liked me more than as a friend, and, honestly, I think I would be lying to myself if I said I wasn't interested at all. However, we still barely speak to each other in person. He tries to, but I constantly shoot him down with one-word answers and cold stares because I fear the reaction of my friends if they know I might be involved with him.

Now he's texting me more and more, telling me how much he's thinking of me, and that he wants me to come over for the night and everything... To be honest, I'm very interested, but I don't know if I can handle everything that would come with the relationship... He's one of the sweetest kids I've ever met, he's really funny, he texts me all the time and I think he's handsome... but at the same time, I'm pretty sure my friends would judge me eternally for pursuing a relationship with him. I talked about him to one of my friends, and she brushed it off as "pity love"... I know some of them that would approve, but I see all of them almost every day and I will keep seeing them for at least another year and a half (the rest of the program), so I'm not sure I want to give them a reason to bitch about me behind my back for a complete year...

Is it normal that I'm so confused solely because of my friends' prejudices? What should I do?

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  • Terence_the_viking
    11 years ago

    He was a skater boy she said see you later boy. He wasn't good enough for her.

    Now he's a superstar slamming on his guitar does your pretty face see what he's worth.

    Sorry for the cheese right there but it seemed approipriate.

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  • howaminotmyself
    11 years ago

    Why do you want to be friends with judgmental people? Don't sacrifice your happiness for a classroom reputation that will change next semester.

    Pick your own friends. You are far more qualified to do that than anyone else.

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  • dom180
    11 years ago

    If your friends would begrudge you someone who could make you happy without having a good reason ("we think he's annoying" not counting as a good reason), I don't think they are good friends.

    I say you ignore your judgmental friends and take a chance on him.

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  • Geni
    9 years ago

    It is good to try and give people the benifit of the doubt, and try not to be prejudice, you never know, you might find out you had them all wrong.

    But on the other side of things, I think, if you just really can't get along with some one, while it might hurt their feelings, trying to force something isn't going to work either. In the end, it could make you dislike some one even more, and if you really can't get along with that person, you are going to have a hard time making something good out of it.

    But, if you really do want to give it a try, to see if you could get around the thing that annoys you enough to get to better know someone, then it's important to let your friends know that you would like to try it. If they are good friends, they might not fully get it, but if they see you are serious, they are more likely to give it a try, unless they have good reason to believe that the situation is not healthy for you. I know there have been people I enjoyed hanging out with, that my actual close friends didn't as much, but they have never had a problem with /me/ doing so, as long as I understand that /they/ are not interested. Even then, some times I've had friends change their minds about some one too because /I/ did.

    Stuff like this is hard, and it's really difficult to find a "right" answer. At the end of the day, what you have to decide is if you can walk away with out later regretting it.

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  • stanie
    9 years ago

    You choose whether your want to do what your heart want or those other bitches say

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  • (s)aint
    10 years ago

    I have no sympathy for people of your kind :L

    Your "friends" aren't FRIENDS if they would even raise an eyebrow at YOUR BF/GF. As long as you pick someone who treats you right and isn't a complete jerkoff, GO FRO IT.

    You need to grow up :L

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  • fullhouse
    11 years ago

    Who read it completely?

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    • Justsomejerk
      11 years ago

      I read it, apparently he loves big black cocks but he is a racist so he is torn inside.

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      • fullhouse
        11 years ago

        lolz.. I wish he wrote this instead :-P

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