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Is it normal that only now, as an adult, I realise that my parents actually really sucked at parenting & raising me (inspite of good intentions)?
ps.: I'm 25
I try to excuse their behaviour by thinking "they did the best they knew how".
I say that coz there was less education for them - how to treat children and/or how to develop their self-esteem and confidence. There were no child-rearing TV programmes to show them techniques or any good books.
Not everyone is a natural parent - it is extremely hard work to discipline consistently and fairly. Many parents opt out by using alcohol or drugs, others just lash out in frustration.
At least you know how NOT to parent your kids.
I was raised on three things: video games, The Lion King, and legos. And I turned out fine.
*Angry tear rolls down cheek*
Totally normal. Now that you have some experience in the world, you have more clarity and maturity to understand the events of your childhood. Such enlightenment can be good or bad, depending on your experiences.
I think in the end you kinda realize that your parents are just human beings like everyone else.
No that is not unusual. Most parents should be beaten daily on principle. I intend to raise my children with about 10% of the method my mom used. It's something my best friend and our mate have talked about a lot. We plan on her getting pregnant within he year.