Is it normal to react like this to a gay guy hitting on me?

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I was telling this guy I just met that I was asking this girl to Homecoming. I asked if he was asking anyone, and he said, "No, I don't know any other gay people." I didn't actually care, but then he started flirting with me! After I already made it clear that I was straight.

He was complimenting me in a romantic way on and on, saying things like the way I sat was cute. It made me really uncomfortable. Eventually, I texted my friend to call me so I would have an excuse to leave, so I could think it over.

When I went back (to the auditorium where we were having our rehearsal), I told him to leave me alone for good. Then I changed my seat.

I don't know. I have a bad feeling I overreacted. Any advice?

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  • AngAnders112
    12 years ago

    you should've punched him in the jeans

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  • Solophonic
    12 years ago

    Completely shutting someone out is wrong. All he was doing was testing the waters. I'm sure you've done it to girls before, just let him know you don't mind him being gay but let him know you are not interested.

    And it's not sexual harassment to flirt, he was not pressuring him or stalking him, he flirted ONCE. It sucks to be gay and know no other gay people, because your options for love are pretty much zero so you have to find out if any straight guys are secretly bi by doing these things.

    Imagine if you went to a school of 100% lesbians who didn't want to touch you. You'd eventually start flirting with one hoping she has a straight side; same exact thing with this guy, just less ridiculous.

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  • Inspector019
    12 years ago

    It is normal for people to act defensively when uncomfortable by something they are not familiar with.

    You just have to be mature enough to address it like a intelligent adult. Just tell him you are uncomfortable and that you do not have the same interests in common.

    It is your right to not want to interact with someone if you choose not to, and it seems as though your concious is healthy enough to tell you that being cruel or rude isn't a required part of the process.

    Good for you for thinking about things and how actions can affect others.

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  • Josie_57
    12 years ago

    if he made you feel uncomfortable, then its normal to want to get away from him, but you probably could've been more polite about it.

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  • JuliusE
    12 years ago

    If he made you feel uncomfortable there is you did NOTHING wrong. Be confident in yourself, you don't need to put up with sexual harassment from a gay guy (esp. In this case since it's unnatural for you).

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