Is it normal to react like this?

I've been friends online with this person for almost a year and enjoy talking with them a lot, and the feeling is mutual with that person. We're pretty close online friends. However there are times where I completely over-react, and think that person is ignoring me because they didn't reply back to my text. I normally just keep that to myself though, until today when I over-reacted again and stressed out because I thought I did something to annoy them.

Turns out they just weren't in the mood to talk. I had no idea, and apologized and they told me it wasn't a big deal. Right now I'm just keeping space until they text back. My question is: Is it normal to react this way? I guess it's because I don't know if they'll ever text me back.

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44% Normal
Based on 18 votes (8 yes)
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  • flamer180

    I am kinda the same way lol. If someone doesnt reply back after a period of time, I start to wonder myself lol

    It's normal, since you really cant control the internet. And peoples lives.

    What Ive taught myself though, is to be patient for them to respond.

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  • shenanigans

    My sister is like this with her boyfriend, if he doesn't reply straight away she thinks he's ignoring her, and even when he replies if he doesn't put kisses at the end it means he doesn't love her, and she starts crying. She's 25 btw.

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  • Captrichie

    It's true. "You young people don't seem to have any patience ...and get angry quicker if they don't get a response in a day or 3. I'll always wonder why we men don't develop emotional intelligence and understanding earlier, e.g. I remember leaving pretty bad messages with girls/women that turned me on ( intellectually, too.) I often wonder why I didn't have the smarts and patience to play relationships, especially during the first few 8-11 months with calm patience. One told me than I was dealing with someone more emotionally mature than I ...One told me, I 'll never forget,"we bring out the worst in each other.." which was just plain horseshit. She and I both wanted long term intimacy, but in retrospect was more frightened than I.
    Main point: Forget the rude, stupid,hypersensitive responses you got on this forum. Think about this:
    ."if I knew then what I know now" is a thought that's coming to you.. Sexes differ, e.g. men mature more slowly until a point. The irony is men stabilize lifelong after that, whereas some women seem to have mental pauses ( aka menopause) indefinitely. Some move to California to liberate themselves,and,destroy virtually everything that could be lasting.
    The trick is DON'T try to justify your outburst as "normal"!!! Learn from it, call it age appropriate instead, and move on. Later, he/she might be sucking-up. If not, whomever never liked you in the first place, and you better have better things to do with your time!

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  • thegypsysailor

    Seems a pretty common complaint on here.
    I guess if you always expect instant gratification, people are going to constantly be letting you down, especially if those people don't consider you the most important thing in their lives.
    You young people don't seem to have any patience at all. When I was your age, a response to a letter mailed could take weeks or more. We never worried that the other party was upset with us or didn't like us. A reply took time. We didn't even have answering machines on our corded phones, so if we missed a call we didn't even know it. Yet we didn't freak out because we hadn't heard back, after 52.4 seconds!
    Give yourself a break. Possibly, just possibly, your internet friend was taking a shit and didn't take the phone into the bathroom. That doesn't mean you did anything wrong or that he hates you. It just means he didn't take his phone into the damn bathroom.

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    • wigz

      "You young people don't seem to have any patience at all. When I was your age,..."

      Oh shut the fuck up. You know what people did back then? They figured out when they should expect their reply and excitedly ran to the mailbox when the it was that time and guess what?? If it wasn't in the mail that day they'd be pissed/disappointed/worried. They also constantly complained how things took so long. IT'S THE SAME FUCKING THING! Same feelings. Moron.

      And with the phone, they sat around the house all day when they were expecting an important call...nonstop bitching 'when are they gonna call??? Come on! Call! I don't wanna sit here all day!' And if the call never comes in that day, it's more complaining and worry.

      Same. Fucking. Shit. Save your 'back in my day' superiority bullshit.

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      • thegypsysailor

        I'm still not reading your bullshit, asshole. Hope you are having fun masturbating on IIN.

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