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How do you know the person you are with is THE person? Can you love two people? Do you view that as normal?
Just feeling uncertain lately..
When you just know, you just know. And the other person just knows. Take it from someone who... just knows :)
Based on something a great friend here told me last night, I think maybe you can love more than one person but you can only be *in* love with one. Although to add my own personal touch of negativity to that, I think loving more than one person makes it harder to have the level of passion required to be *in* love with either of them because your attention is split in more than one direction.
I think that concisely describes how I feel at the moment.
EDIT: Obviously you can love more than one person in a platonic friendship way or a family way, but I'm talking only about romantic love.
I feel like "the one" is a bit of an idealized concept. The truth is there are many people out there who would be perfectly compatible for you. And I don't think a soul mate necessarily means someone you're going to be with forever, simply someone who was "meant" to be in your life for whatever period of time... the people who've taught you the most, the relationships that really helped you grow... I've had and lost two such relationships in my life already.
You can love two people at one time, or 3, or 4... that's why polyamory exists as a lifestyle choice. There are different kinds of love too... I love my friends, in a different than romantic way... I have a great love for humanity which is very different from both of those. Love is fluid, subjective, and hard to explain. It's best to just take it for what it is rather than question it too much; love is not an entirely rational emotion and to overthink it would diminish it.
Yeah, totally. You can't really know if it's them can you? It's not like you can predict the future. Loving two people? Yeah, i don't really know, but personally i don't believe there is 'love' as such, but there are emotional attachments and physical attraction. If you believe that's what love is, then sure, of course you can.