Is it normal to put hanging with friends above your son?

One day hopefully he'll realize that the time he spends making an effort with his son now will outweigh that of his friends. If this happens often then he doesn't really value building memories with your son and is stuck with the hanging out with the bro's days. If you want to do something, you will.

Obviously he doesn't see it as important. Yeah, being selfish is normal.

That is not normal. He doesn't love his son and he is not trying to build a relationship with his son. Is that his real son or is he the step dad? If you have to force someone to show love to someone else then that means the person doesn't love that person. Open your eyes, it is very obvious. Don't worry because your son is not missing out. You can show love for your son yourself. One day when your son is grown he will see his dad for who he really is and will leave his dad and never bother with him. The dad will either regret he was never their for his son or he just won't care even more. I had a step father who pretended to care in front of my mom but my mom had to force him to do everything with me. My granny mostly helped my mom with me. If I am a kid and I have to force a grown man to love me then its not worth it. So when I turned old enough I left both of them and I hope I never see them again. Its a shame my mother never left him, I hope when my brothers grow old enough to leave they will follow in my foot steps and leave both of them to rot in hell alone. Show your own son some love becuz one day he will grow up and he will notice and if your so busy up your boyfriend butt then your son will resent you as well and you will lose out. But if you show love then one day you will be rewarded with your sons love and you will b at his wedding and u will get to see ur grandchildren and it will just b your boyfriend who miss out on these amazing moments.

Normal, I love it when my dad hangs out with his old friends.

Bastard. I had a female friend like that years ago. She now has three kids, none of which are in her custody. Thank goodness for that.

Normal? Yeah, probably. Nice? Not really. However, hounding someone isn't exactly kind, either.

You don't give a lot of background here. Are you sharing a household, or do you live on your own or with parents? What do you do? Does he do this about other things, or is this typical behavior for him and not just a new development? Does he have a history of disappointing you and his son by not following through, or are you just concerned that it might happen if you don't get on his back about stuff?

Honestly, he's right that there will be plenty of Easter things left in stores, given that your son is 4 and will probably be happy with the celebrations no matter what's in the basket. Young kids get excited about the festivities like dyeing eggs and hunting for them on Easter morning, not about the specifics of whether they eat brand-name Peeps or have a fancy basket.

They're also happy when parents don't fight.

If he wants to hang out with friends instead of his family, I'm betting he's really young, early 20s or so. He won't grow up and act like a proper dad overnight, but getting irate probably won't help, either. Try rationally explaining to him why it's important and how concerned you are that your son might not have the Easter he's expecting. If you approach him with anger, he's going to get defensive; if you tell him you're worried, he's likely to allay those worries by taking care of the shopping.