Is it normal to pursue a new relationship when you have an std?

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I got HPV(probably from my first sexual partner) and subsequently gave it to my now ex-girlfriend(for other reasons) who discovered it and informed me. Anyway after that breakup I've been feeling extremely depressed and unable to make any effort to move on due to my thinking that it's not right to get close to someone due to my situation. The fact is that the infection may be gone by now, because, assuming that my first partner did transmit it, it has already been almost 3 years since I got it.

But because there is no HPV test for men(or so is my understanding) I am deathly afraid that anyone I get close to will be disappointed or upset when I rightly warn them that I simply can't confirm I'm not still carrying the infection.

I know there are way worse STDs to deal with, but I still feel totally helpless. Bottom line, has anyone dealt with entering a new relationship where one partner is carrying an STD? Is it normal?

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  • kayla8
    12 years ago

    oh and its easier to transmit genital warts if there are visible warts it is highly contagious think its just less contagious if you dont have warts but stil obvs have to use protection as can stil transmit. if u have visible warts u can transmit through skin to skin contact without actually having intercourse

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  • kayla8
    12 years ago

    you can never cure HPV, u can get rid of the warts but the virus will be with you forever. I know because i have HPV ive never had any warts ever n only found out i had HPV about 2 years after i would of contracted it....ive only been with 2 guys n my second boyfriend happened to have genital warts but never knew as some ppl dont get any warts. He found out recently n turns out i obviously caught them from him too.... anyways im in a similar situation to you now as him and I broke up and im worried about meeting someone knew having to have that awkward conversation.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    Talk to ur doc. I think as long as u don't have warts on ur pecker u can't transmit it?? I could b wrong tho.

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  • Cookies&Cream
    13 years ago

    You should move on just because you had an illness does'nt mean your life stops. You can get a new partner some day, but if it bothers you that much be honest with your next patner. I read about the HPV and apparently there is not test for men, but I also read that most of the HPV are temporary and should have disssapear within 1-2 years. By the way always use protection when having sex. Good luck with everything, hope you find a new lover soon.

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  • dappled
    13 years ago

    You can't really test for HPV but you can monitor the symptoms.

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    • Zooman
      13 years ago

      I have no symptoms that I've recognized. At first I was happy i didn't have warts or anything, but of course it means I'm even more clueless as to when it's gone.

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  • hippychick
    13 years ago

    You know, truthfully, I'm in a new relationship and if my partner were to tell me that he had an STD, I'd still stay with him. We'd be careful, but it wouldn't change the way I felt about him.

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