Is it normal to pretend to want to text you?

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Especially with guys...if you don't feel like texting someone, but you know they will start feeling hurt or suspicious, do you text them? just to make them feel better? which means you do care about them? or if you don't feel like texting them, you just don't even bother and leave them hanging? even if you know they're going to feel hurt or suspicious, you don't bother texting them?
Me and my dude have been iffy lately because he's just acting distant which we talked about. He's just in the middle of some changes so I was like okay you know I won't be feeling all bummed out anymore or take it personally. So now he's still the same, really distant at texting (were long distance so we can't just go and hang out) but Im just telling myself "hes stressed and busy" but seriously its getting to me again. Like he won't contact me until the end of the night when hes working. Is he just texting me cause he knows if I dont hear from him, Imma get all bummed out again? so he does care so I shouldn't be bummed about it? I feel like really, all day you don't contact me like before. I honestly feel like theres someone else or he doesn't like me anymore and doesn't feel like talking to me anymore. But like I said, he still texts me til late at night, so he does still like me? If he didn't, he wouldn't bother right? I'm not sure what to believe. I want to text him back but not if hes just texting me just to text me when really, he doesn't feel like talking to me anymore. I really need to stop saying texting though, cause we mostly snapchat.

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  • derpyderp
    9 years ago

    He "snapchatted" you (I'll be honest, I don't even know what the fuck that is) & you ignore it because you think he's only doing it because he feels you need to hear it which proves he cares but you don't want someone that talks to you because you need it even though that might mean he cares but you're not sure so you're here asking...

    Are you fucking listening to what you're saying?

    Reread all that shit you just wrote & if you still don't have the answer to your question - whatever that is - then you're too immature for a long-distance relationship, maybe any relationship.
    How old are you both?

    I also remember your last thread & it appears you're just playing stupid fucking games. If your guy isn't giving you what you need then talk to him. Tell him what you need in no uncertain terms.
    If he still can't give it to you or at least reasonably explain why he can't at the moment (which it actually sounds like he has but you're still not happy) then call things off.
    It's probably best for you both.

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    • CountessDouche
      9 years ago

      I've given this same advice to the OP like 3 times. OP, it's no wonder he doesn't want to text you. You overanalyze everything to an obsessive and exhausting degree. I wouldn't text you back either. You should get a hobby.

      *passively aggressively snapchats derps a picture of my middle finger for falling asleep too early*

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      • derpyderp
        9 years ago

        I thought I remembered you replying cuntily to a thread like this before.
        OP is doing MY head in, good luck to her poor boyfriend!

        *aggressively aggressively snapchats douche a picture of my cock because that's just how I roll*

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    • ChocolatePrincess
      9 years ago

      Omg I love you derp!!!!! Lmao how old are you for not knowing what Snapchat is?

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      • derpyderp
        9 years ago

        Haha, well cheers!
        You're actually not the first person fron this site to say that...

        I'm 28 & although I've never used or even seen it I do "know" snapchat is a pic sharing app where the pic you send disappears after 10 secs or so (am I even close?)
        But I don't see how that's an alternative to texting?

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        • eccentriceel
          9 years ago

          It isn't an alternative to texting. I don't use any social media.

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  • iEatZombies_
    9 years ago

    Please stop bothering us with this petty nonsense.

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  • Nokiot9
    9 years ago

    Of fucking course. But I hate that I gotta do it though. My gf flips the fuck out if I don't answer her calls and texts. She busted into my house at 3 am and threw my phone off the balcony because I didn't answer it because it was dead and I was asleep. So yeah... I kind of have to answer my phone lol

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      Sorry u had to go thru that. But what is that supposed to mean? So u do care and that's what matters? Or u know deep inside she should just find someone who wants to talk to her instead of feeling like he has to? If u didn't give a shit then u wouldn't even bother and just ignore her but cause u do then u have to suck it up and at least make some type of effort.

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  • thegypsysailor
    9 years ago

    What is the big fucking deal with texting? More of this childish instant gratification crap?
    Give it a break. If you don't hear from someone in a week or two, he's probably not into you too much. If it's a couple of hours, or even a day, what's the big deal?
    Hell, sometimes I let the phone go to voicemail because, gosh could it be, I'm busy. Or maybe I just don't want to talk to someone right that second!

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      The thing is its not just I haven't heard from him all day, but its like he's getting slower at texting than before. Before we would talk all day every day, now he'll contact me like once a day or not at all. He said he's busy but I just feel like that's not all it. How busy can u be to not talk to me as much anymore? So pissed. And if he doesn't wanna talk to me anymore why can he just say so rather than saying he's "busy?" Only explanation I can think of is he just wants to keep me around when he does need intimacy so he's just using me.

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  • KeepsakeDoll
    9 years ago

    Why don't you just skype with the guy? Some people are lazy at texting. Not to mention that tone can be misread sometimes.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      We don't really Skype. We just text or snap chat which is I think better cause then u know what they're up to. And its more fun.

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  • Avant-Garde
    9 years ago

    I don't understand people to day. Call him up or talk to him face to face. Texting is a cheap way to communicate. It's impersonal and lazy. Did it ever occur to you that he can't be on or near his phone all the time. It doesn't necessarily mean that he's cheating or distancing himself from you. It means that he's busy. If you think the relationship is worth ending, talk to him in person.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      I did call him up because I am old school but nowadays people look at people who just want to talk out their problems as nagging or clingy and its not even close, its called communication. But even after we talked about how hes going through changes and thats why he's not communicating as much, it still got to me and I just thought it couldn't be just cause he was "busy." But whatever, I'm still on the same boat and he is still communicating with me like once a day, mostly at night, and it still bothers me but I'm just going to keep going with the flow while all these changes are happening so he can see that I am a keeper since I'm just sucking it up and letting him do all his things like he wants. He did text me something nice the other night which gave me some reassurance, especially after he didn't do it for a while. Thats all it takes to feel better.

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  • TareBear20
    9 years ago

    Could it be that maybe you two have spent so much time texting all day that you've run out of things to say to each other? Why does your snapchat need an immediate response, anyway? Take this advice: Stop texting and wait for a reply.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      We have gotten accustomed to snapchatting than texting so snapchatting is our texting which is why we expect a response.

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      • TareBear20
        9 years ago

        You should never get accustomed to that type of communication with someone and if you do, you should keep it within the two text limit. None of this ----> ???, where are you? Frank? Frank??? , your mom called, Frank???

        No one wants this. Snapchats are no exception to this rule. Keep it casual and keep the conversation going by waiting for a response. brownie points if you apologize to "frank" for being so impatient. ;)

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  • deepthought33
    9 years ago

    Not everyone is as into texting and immediate returns. For those who don't particularly care for it much, yea, they may sent texts simply for the benefit of another. That's pretty much how I send a text to anyone.

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