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A couple of years back, a man tried to rape my friend. He wasn't successful, although he did hurt her. She won't press charges and keeps denying that it's a problem. She won't even tell her parents. I try to get her to tell someone, but she won't. Is her reaction normal? It drives me crazy.
People deal with things in their own way. It's important that you don't interfere as it's not your problem, it's hers. You probably don't know what it's like or what she's been through/still going through. She might not be ready to come forward, or may be in deep denial to protect herself from PTSD or depression/anxiety issues. She's probably angry and humiliated inside and doesn't want any attention from it. In order to press charges, she'd have to relive the whole thing and possibly have to deal with the perpetrator's denial of it. It's not exactly fair to his potential future victims, but her victimization isn't potential, it's happened already, and she deserves to get over it her own way IMO.
Poor thing is just probably stressed.
What a horrible thing she had to go through..
But as a friend you should tell her the right thing to do would be to tell someone. If she doesn't press charges the same thing/worse could happen to someone else. She could be saving another person from the same fate.
that's not good..she needs to tell someone, and she should press charges against the guy.
yes, its normal although its not right it is found very typical in these situations. she is ashamed of it and does not want to speak of it as if that night never happened. shes in denial and eventually everything shes bottling up inside will come to the surface.
It feels really good when someone find us attractive. It is very flattering. When they turn their attention to someone else, it's threatening that good feeling. Even though it is illogical to be jealous as you said, it's just a feeling. Learn the art of self humor. Find the ability to laugh at yourself. Just because you're jealous does not necessarily mean "you love" him/her. But that's really for you to decide.
I would say it's a normal defence mechanism; however, when she is ready it needs to be discussed.
It takes constant effort to suppress a memory. Although it provides some relief that tension will remain, and play on her mind. It really just that memory reaching out from the subconscious trying to find peace. With that said she has to be willing to discuss it.
first, is this guy still around?
i wonder why she is protecting him.
i don't know if it's normal or not, i suppose the victim has to decide how damaged she is. it would drive me crazy too.