Is it normal to prefer the single life?

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People are always looking for partners and I just don't see the point. Its not thrilling and it gets to be stressful knowing you are obligated to care and always think of another person. If you think about someone it should be because you care not simply you are dating them.

A relationship is just a person you have reserved sex with but if you don't want that why even date to begin with? A friend serves for discussion and should serve as support when you are down.

If not you still have the possibility of getting other benefits like someone to go to the movies with. I just do not see why everyone seems to care so much. I have had several and they did not work, I was never happy and it got to the point where it just became stressful as hell.

So it normal to not care? and don't think they should make it up to be this great and magical thing like they do in every film, show and everything else that is shoved in our face since birth. INCLUDING KIDS MOVIES!

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  • Shiroyasha
    10 years ago

    I agree with you... to a certain point. I do think that certain people are obsessed with the idea of settling down and getting married. But for me it is pointless to be in serious relationships... before you are 25 years old at least.

    I don't know how old you are, but let me just tell you something: It doesn't matter how crazy your life is, after a certain point almost everyone wants to lead a calm and traditional life. You might reach a point in which dating will become an annoyance. Most people just want to settle down after certain point. The safest thing someone can do is having someone to take care of mutually.

    Unfortunately, this world was not built for lone wolfs. If you are still single after 35 or 40, two things will happen. 1st, all your friends will already be settled down and your lifestyles will differ so much that you will stop being friends completely. And second, you will be forced to hang out with younger and immature people.

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    I agree with this. I too don't understand why most people hate being single.
    There's one problem why this for me though.
    Most of our population does not think this way.
    I'm not sure why, but I suspect most people are conditioned to what the same things out of life.
    Personally I don't want most of the things most people want. I don't want to get married, I don't want kids, I don't want to live in one place, I don't want to do the same job, I don't want to ever settle down in any way.
    I want adventure and experience.
    The one thing I do miss from having relationships is physical contact.
    Everything else I can get from many other people. I have lots of friends, male and female, and do not have a lack of social interaction available.
    Most women expect a commited relationship for physical contact though, so that is a disappointment to me.
    Not even just for sex, but I like having someone to sleep with.
    Unfortunately we are in a society where once you want that, they expect to be possessive and want to live with you, and be around you all the time.
    I don't like being that close to anyone.

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    I agree with you for the most part. Now that I am single I really enjoy it...Mainly because I don't see the freaking point in dating anymore. I am young, will be moving around, and fall for people with high ambitions. We are just going to move apart.

    The thought of not having sex for possibly years makes me internally sad though.

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  • Aliceee93
    10 years ago

    Yeh! Single life is greeeeat.. who are we kidding :'(

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  • GreatArt
    10 years ago

    I think relationships build character, you don't want to miss that phase in your life. However I do see how the whole affair is sensationalised on TV and the really dysfunctional relationships and abuse can be a real turnoff, but that's the risk you take living and loving. You can love your own way, reinvent or improve how you think relationships should be but don't give up on it totally! Physical relationships also get emotional - it's what draws people together to form more deeper intimate relationships, a whole new level from just friendship. I wouldn't want to missout on that experience.

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    • ObsoleteAbsolute
      10 years ago

      I can build my character when I stare at a pancake. I don't need live dick for that.

      Ahaha, really though. I don't like pretending and hiding things. I remember I had to take a shit when a guy was visiting my sister, in our parents' home. I really had to, so I did, he complained and was disgusted and we had an argument. My sister wasn't even angry but pretended she was to give him his point, saying that it was rude of me for not lodging my ass and waiting for them to finish their half-assed dinner.

      I called her a sell-out and we didn't speak for four days.

      Man, I am not up for that, so a relationship won't really help.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      You don't need a relationship to build character. Some people do not need a partner to figure out who they are. What you speak of is called Codependency and its not considered a healthy thing. Also some people are very close to friends. Especially if your talking about women.

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  • GreatArt
    10 years ago

    Anything worth having don't come easy. You can build a good relationship. Don't make up your conclusions just because of a few bad experiences or failed relationships, there's some really great people out there. People in relationships are just really much braver than those who choose not to pick up the challenge. I'm not disputing that singles can have a great life, but this so-called "co-dependency" is the reason for our spawned generations and I think it's a great expression of our potential as humans to love and care. Hey, if you choose to be single, that's up to you but it's definitely not normal.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      I didn't say I never dated. I already said SEVERAL. Not a few. Also if you know anything about psychology you realize getting a date is not that hard.

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