Is it normal to prefer ponography over women in real life?

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I've been using pornography for the majority of my sexual adventures since I discovered it when I was 10. Today I'm in my sophomore year of college, still using porn at least 2 times a week to get off and honestly its more appealing to me than the women in my college community. I don't look at women sexually anymore no matter their appearance and I absolutely do not respond to sexual advances the same way that I used to. Now I can hardly commit without losing interest within days and breaking the relationship just to return to masturbating to the really graphic stuff on the net. I've lost many relationships with women but honestly I don't really care at all. I'm not interested in dating nor do I care to approach the females. I feel like I'm losing my emotions to human sexuality. Am I developing a mental problem because it worries me that I'm not willing to commit and procreate anymore.

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  • Couman
    9 years ago | pl

    That's okay, we have enough humans.

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  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago

    I think that is a common reaction to porn, although you said you only do it a couple times a week which makes it sound like you are not a porn addict at all.

    I understand what you mean about losing all emotion towards human sexuality. I feel similar, although I don't find the girls in porn attractive usually either. They look too fake. I do seem to have a normal physical sex drive but don't understand emotional concepts very well and am not sure if I am able to even be interested in anybody at all. I like that I am not burdened by things that most people are but at the same time I know I am missing something.

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  • glen
    9 years ago

    I do it everyday... I also prefer it to real sex and im married... If I never had actual intercourse again that would be great... the only time I do it is when she wants it witch isn't that often... I can look at whatever I want and have the variety I love... not the sane crap over and over... never mind sex is too much work.. no im not fat im in very good shape 190lbs 5-11.. I get hit on a lot and have no want for it..id way rather jo than have sex....!

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  • Faceless
    9 years ago

    No. but maybe? But no! definitely! Yes? AHHHH!!!! im now a broken man. thanks op!

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    • CoraCook
      9 years ago

      You've always been broken, no need to thank OP for that one, ya know.

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  • thegypsysailor
    9 years ago

    You have an addiction. You, like any other addict, can justify it any way you please, but you know that you are not living a normal, healthy lifestyle. You need to face up to this addiction, just as you would if it was drugs or alcohol, and if necessary get help. Good luck.

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    • Lonely2
      9 years ago

      There is no such thing as sex addiction....its a made up concept...there are people with various emotional disturbances and relqtionship or intimacy issues who misuse a whole shit load of stuff...but the sex response takes a physiological readiness that cant be primed on demand...there are people with anxiety issues that use sex to relieve anxiety...but still the underlying sex readiness must still be in place....

      This guy has relationship and intimacy issues.....these are not caused by pornography...heck masturbation to porn is done by scores of males around the globe who still marry etc...and twice a week is notneven excessive...I do it every day

      Most relationships issues begin in childhood but dont become fully noticed until adulthood when the individual focuses on forming relationships....and then people wantbeasy answers and solutions...it has nothing to do with porn or some made up concept of porn addiction or sex addiction....

      It is an intimacy disorder , a bonding disorder, a relationship disorder...if it causes the person no distress or major malfunction..then they dont even have to treat it...but if it doescause distress..they need to seek therapy

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      • thegypsysailor
        9 years ago

        "There is no such thing as sex addiction" Please show me any supporting information on this, because I don't think you are correct. Do you also disagree that there is internet addiction? I'm sure the majority on here would disagree with you on that one, too.

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        • Lonely2
          9 years ago

          You have been shitstormed by dr phil and oprah and cosmo to believe this shit....this is all part of the overuse of the 12 step program overload...which can be useful when we are talking about specific chemical addictions but have no place in behavioral ones...OCD is not all hand washing and checking the stove...it can also encompass various behavioral anomalies like internet or porn obsession...but we must treat the real disorder not the symtomalogy of the disorder...

          These obsessions are substitutes for real intimacy and relationships which have been impaired by the underlying emotional disturbances and are held in place by the frozen emotional states and the resulting lack of social skills...

          Think about it...how would you even monitor so called sex addiction? one orgasm a day is ok but two is addiction...or masturbation is only bad if porn is used or you think about certain fetishes...there is no way to detremine the right kind of sex ..it is a prposterous concept and neatly avoided by sex addiction advocates who tell you everyone must admit there own bottom lines...taken to its logical extrmes it amount to nonsense...

          now that does not mean that various sex and relationship issues dont cause people emotional and mental suffering...they do..but so does religious issues for some people..or money issues...or family issues....

          So sex issues must be seen as a part of overall relational and intimacy issues...the lack of people to achieve real happiness and balance in this area is the issue and porn obsession must be seen in this context

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          • thegypsysailor
            9 years ago

            So sorry, you lose. I've never watched Dr Phil, Oprah or read Cosmo; there you go assuming again. Your whole argument is so flawed it's laughable.
            From the men and women who destroy their marriages because of sexual addiction, to someone like the OP who has withdrawn from reality to the internet, addiction can take many forms. One does not so much monitor and study addiction, but rather the reaction to not fulfilling the addiction, when studying addiction.
            I absolutely love it when you people assume I'm brainwashed by TV, movies or the broadcast media, when I haven't seen any of them in YEARS. Whenever I find something of interest on the internet, I search for other sources so I do not have a single reference point from which to form my opinions.
            To equate sex to intimacy, for some, is like equating a moon to a star. Both may be celestial bodies, but they are not necessarily even composed of the same material. People fuck all the time, with less intimacy than they might show their pet, at feeding time. Sex can be just sex, nothing more.

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            • Lonely2
              9 years ago

              Your such a fucking stupid idiot and its always idiots who think they know something...I guarantee you never took even one college course in human sexuality....yeah, the internet taught you...thats my point...joke...the only reason I get mad is because you can actually fool people with your fucking bullshit....

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      • bleach_baby
        9 years ago

        Actually, you're completely wrong. Anything that releases dopamine can be addictive as overstimulating your nerve sensors repeatedly leads to changes in the brain, especially when the brain is still forming (the OP said he started watching porn at ten). I would advise reading this article, which I already linked the OP - it's from Vice Magazine, so hardly Oprah or Dr Phil, you might find it interesting. http://www.vice.com/read/you-can-fap-or-fuck-but-not-both-842

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        • Lonely2
          9 years ago

          I hear this shit all the time...evrything pleasurable releases dopamine...food, sex, cuddling, sleep for chrissakes...so if all these pleasurable sensations release dopamine then why do only some people get addicted? huh, tell me that genius?

          Maybe it because they dont release enough dopamine and so need more to get the feelings of pleasure...or maybe they have anxiety or depression and use these pleasarable experiences to try and relieve anxiety or depression....

          So its the underlying anxiety and depression and not the sex....so if these underlying issues were treated th sex addiction would also " correct" itself ...so once again its not a sexual addiction , because like I said ther is no such thing...

          Its is just that people who have severe anxiety and depression are going to show abnormalities across a range of behaviors and since humans are sexual it will encompass that as well...

          He probably also has strange food behaviors, poor sleeping behaviors, poor social behaviors, etc....not just strange...

          However porn is a substitute for sex so it encompasses an intimacy disorder...I am not just talking occasionally looking at porn...I am talking about when it becomes th primary form of sexual expression...then it also is a symptom of an underlying intimacy disorder which usually has developed through years of mood disorder

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          • bleach_baby
            9 years ago

            Ahh, you didn't read the article did you :( why don't you read the scientific research rather than just assuming you know more about it than the neurologists? The point is about repetition of a highly pleasurable activity (far more intense than cuddling or sleeping, and people absolutely do get addicted to food and sex when they use them compulsively, ie in the same way young teenagers are starting to use pornography) - it makes you require more and more extreme stimulation to achieve the same level of pleasure. There is seriously no point talking to you if you're not going to base your argument on science, you are like the creationist of the porn industry. Do some research, you're just making shit up to justify your own viewing habits. No one is trying to take your porn away dude - it's like smoking a joint or drinking a couple beers - fine a few times a week when you're old enough to handle it, but dangerous when you're doing it multiple times a day, every day. Then it starts fucking with your brain chemistry, as with the poor dude who posted the story above.

            If you want to continue this debate, do some research and get some scientific data to back you up (read: not opinion pieces or bullshit from 'sexologists', but actual scientific data. I would be genuinely interested in reading this data if you have it. If not, it's just your opinion and it's got no basis and isn't worth jack.

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            • Lonely2
              9 years ago

              Zzzzzzzzz..........zzzzzzz......zzzzzzzz

              Didnt I already say I heard this shit all the time...I am well aware of this stuff..nothing new at all..old hat.

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        • Lonely2
          9 years ago

          Very stupid article...the need for touch is seperate from orgasm although they obviously can happen simultananeously...but whther you fap or not you will ALWAYS desire human touch and thus the need for intercourse will always be present whether you watch porn until your eyes fall out and you genitals rip off

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  • Bobblahblah
    9 years ago

    Don't worry. Be happy.

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  • bleach_baby
    9 years ago

    I would strongly advise reading this article:

    http://www.vice.com/read/you-can-fap-or-fuck-but-not-both-842

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  • johippie
    9 years ago

    What if you have sex with a woman while watching porn??

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  • cupcake_wants
    9 years ago

    you'll probably be buying blow jobs within 5 years. give it time.

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  • Mersaphe
    9 years ago

    As much as I like porn, I feel that it trivializes the act of sex. Sex should be a sacred act and just as much emotional and psychological as physical. I don't enjoy porn that is straight up sex, I feel like I need to first emotionally connect with the girl on screen before I can really enjoy the sex that follows. And I believe you're missing out on real life with an over emphasis on porn. Just getting to the sex is difficult in itself in real life. You have to get to know the girl, she needs to like you back, then you go on a date, explore what you have in common with her, share secrets, explore hobbies, keep her interested, and basically earn her trust. You might even have to get to know her friends, depending on the girl. It's a lot of crap that comes before having sex. But the fact that getting sex in real life is as much a challenge as it is makes it more enjoyable. I like porn but I realize that romantic relationships in the real world are much more complicated and, as a result, much more meaningful and fulfilling. Porn doesn't even come close to the feelings you can get from being genuinely in love with a girl.

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    • Lonely2
      9 years ago

      Sex is sacred in the sense that eating, sleeping amd shitting is sacred it is necessary for survival

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  • Unimportant
    9 years ago

    Well, pornography offers you a diversity, which no woman ever could or would.

    I'd say normal.

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  • sunshineanddandelions
    9 years ago

    You're likely addicted to porn, and like any unhealthy addiction, it's ruining your life. Get help fast. This is not normal. You need to quit the porn, and learn how to reconnect with humanity before you become some weirdo on a sex offender registry.

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  • Dot123
    9 years ago

    Sounds like the movie, 'Don Jon'.

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  • Holzman_67
    9 years ago

    Haha you should watch a movie called Don Jon

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  • DangerousPotatoGuy
    9 years ago

    You know what? you definitely NEED a girlfriend. I'm assuming you're still a virgin and I'm telling you, sometimes you don't know how good it is to share your sexual experience with a woman until you actually have it with one. It's way better than jerking off to yourself, heck if you have a healthy sex life you won't even need to look for any other options.

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  • anti-hero
    9 years ago

    That is sad, pathetic and sickening.

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    • Petrichor.
      9 years ago

      Whoops! That was directed at the OP - not you.

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      • Anonnet
        9 years ago

        Nah, you had it right the first time.

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    • Petrichor.
      9 years ago

      It's not normal - it's not healthy. But if it's something you are really concerned about and it's important to you, you may want to consider asking a professional.

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  • Alberthall
    9 years ago

    It's very difficult if you are that way inclined to resist the temptation of pornography. Pornography shows you all the options of the the most dissolute personalities without having to resort to the extremes of kidnap and rape to satisfy the lustful inclinations of a distorted sexual inclination. If this is how you feel sexually you are doing society a service by confining your sexual desires to your imagination and relief by your own hand. But from your own point of view you will never achieve the fulfilment of sex as a physical expression of the loving bond between two human beings.

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    • Asstastics
      9 years ago

      I am so sorry that you are so disillusioned by purist ideals. People are carnal libidinous creatures. They need to fuck as an assertion of their sexual nature. Really dude, wake up! Even priests masturbate while they listen to people confess their dirty stories for forgiveness.

      Pornography is a celebration of sexuality. Pull down your pants and rub your cock right now. It will help improve your mental health.

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      • Lonely2
        9 years ago

        I agree with you mostly but I do belive that porn exists bevause of the unending sexual frustrations of modern life...if we could get the amount of real sex we need we would not need porn and it would not exist

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