Is it normal to pick off where we left off?

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A year ago, I started casually hooking up with a friend. Well, at the time, he was not my friend, but an acquaintance; now we are friends. We simply started texting each other whenever we wanted to hook up, but four months later we stopped. We both decided we needed to end things... we actually became friends. As soon as we stopped hooking up with each other we each started a relationship with other people. I began seeing this guy, a friend of a friend, and he began dating a girl I used to be friends with. I never really started a serious relationship with the guy I was seeing, but he did with that girl. A few months later, he texts me out of the blue... He starts telling me about what is going in his life as we had lost touch a bit and a few days after the first text he tells me, he is not having a good night. We talk til late that night until I eventually fall asleep. When I wake up in the morning, I wake up to two "strange/weird" texts: "My night just went from bad to worse" followed by "She broke up with me." I did not know what to say... I texted him back trying to make him feel better, all while I felt awkward...a day later, he asked me to come over to his apartment in the middle of the day. I went to see him and we had sex again. Is it normal to pick up from where we left off after everything that has happened?

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  • Tealights
    7 years ago

    Sadly, you're not picking up where you two left off, it's impossible. You two weren't friends in the good old hooking up days, and once you two became friends and gained mutual respect for each other, the booty calls stopped. You two are still friends.

    What's happening now is that he's feeling inadequate, unwanted, and unloved after being dumped by someone he was serious with, and using you to get his mind off the other girl.

    Though it's nice to have a steady flow of sex again by someone who you consider a friend, don't forget that he's going through a whirlwind of emotions, which can manifest itself in an endless amount of ways, none being good. So be careful of becoming a rebound, or a replacement girlfriend.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      7 years ago

      Thanks! This is very helpful to hear. I felt like this is exactly what was happening but I guess I just needed to hear it out loud from someone else. You're right, he is my friend and I want to be there for him but I think we need to stop the sex if not it will ruin our friendship...

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  • Ellenna
    7 years ago

    I reckon there's a fair chance he's using you to fill a gap in his life

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