Is it normal to openly hate my retarded brother?

You shouldn't be taking abuse from anyone. Mentally ill or not.

It's normal and okay to hate people who show you nothing but hate, even if they have the good excuse of mental illness and also deserve pity. Talk seriously to your family and show them the seriousness of your feelings about him. Make sure they know how much he hurts you. They should discipline him fairly in the same way they would any other kid: being mentally ill doesn't excuse him from that (unless his mental illness would make that physically impossible, but it doesn't sound like that's the case).

EDIT: Oh, and good luck with getting the better of your anorexia *hugs*

Have a nice sandwich.

I think this kind of response is normal, but you're missing a step people need to take when dealing with people who have those kinds of 'issues'. Just because a person's motivation for doing those horrible things is a legitimate mental problem doesn't make them any less hurtful, disturbing, or annoying - they DEFINITELY are - you just need to recognize that because of those issues, the acts themselves are probably unintentional.

From what I see here, I think you need some kind of counselling to work through these issues. Your brother shouldn't be doing those things - but you need to realize that he probably doesn't mean to or doesn't understand. You both need to work a little to get to where you want to be.

That said, nobody is perfect... It's not your fault or his, it's complicated.

It sounds like your parents really dropped the ball with your brother. If he can't seem to refrain from acting out, they should be acting to discpline him or separate you two so that you don't have to deal with his garbage.

For fuck sake, he is RETARDED cut him some slack.

"Fixing to", you must be southern.

Don't cry or feel bad just do what I tell you and I guarantee you it will help.When your brother calls you names just ignore him and pretend he doesn't exist.If he keeps calling you names for Example:He calls you pig,tell “Yes I am a delicious pig and that's why people love me I even have myown chips thank you your a good brother I love you".If you want to leave of the I love you part you can it's optional.To make this easier, when he calls you names or make you feel bad go buy something he likes candy,cookies,Anything he likes and make sure he is looking at you eating it and if he ask you for a bite or a little piece say,“No I will not give you anything anymore until you be nice to me and I'm going to buy lots of candy and if you be nice to me I will give you candy.Try this out and try to talk to him Good Luck!
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This sounds like my friend. She has a harassing mentally-challenged brother, and is anorexic. And her parents favor her brother too.

But she's a pacifist, so that can't be you.

Best of luck though.

If he's mentally ill, why do you take anything he has to say seriously?

Also why doesn't your family just put him in an institution to be around nutters like him?

But ya if you kick his ass each time he runs his mouth eventually he'll stop.

Okay seriously, what the FUCK is wrong with you people? This kid has NO idea what he's doing and most of you are throwing the poor boy to the dogs. If anything the parents should be to blame here, not their mentally handicapped son, for not getting OP the help that they need.

I understand why this makes you feel like shit, OP. The way you feel is nothing to feel bad about, your parents should be sitting him down when he does these things and making him understand why it's bad. They should be helping you more. The two of you have different kinds of disabilities, but unlike your brother yours is life threatening and it doesn't seem like your family is taking that seriously enough. But do try not to blame your brother, it's much harder because the situation is literally so close to home, but he really doesn't mean it.

Talk to your parents, make them understand why it's important that they correct this behavior, seeing as it has already become a habitual thing and it's probably going to harder to stop him now. There are lots of people with lots of different disabilities in the world and you can place most of them in 2 categories.. people who overcome their disabilities, don't let it define them as a person and live good and happy lives despite their circumstances; and people who use their disabilities as an excuse and let it control them, and that's no good for them or the people around them. It sounds to me like your parents are kind of dropping your brother into that category and that's not fair.

I'm mostly just pissed at all you people saying institutionalize him. Yeah just pawn off your child. I know a little bit about those institutions and nursing homes (my grandfather died due to nurses not knowing what the fuck they're doing) and while the majority of people who work in these places will be good people and hard workers, things happen sometimes. Even so, unless you really had to, how many of you would wanna go live in a cold, clinical place, probably with some weird roomate you have no decision over with those HORRIBLE incandascent lights blaring into your soul, bland shitty institutional cafeteria food and your life strictly regimented and controlled for the rest of your life? My boyfriend's brother has cerebral palsy and as the state is trying to move away from the home care system, him and countless other people are fighting to stay out of places like this.

Your parents need to do something, but "sending the problem away" is NOT the answer.

I think that your parent should put him in a clinic where professionals could take good care of him.

one more thing to eat something you idiot anorexia stupid

hey man retarded people just like the rest of us just because reaction time slow don't mean shit

And in this day and age, we have a symptom and diagnosis for every single little fucking thing with a pill or spoonful of sugar to follow.

Fuck That.

We are fucking humans and we are not fucking perfect. We can atleast try to learn compassion and empathy and truly set us apart from "basic" animals like monkeys or dolphins

Sounds like your parents are "babying" him because hes retarded.

In response, or as a coincidence you are just as mentally ill as he is (just not as obvious)

He's still your brother. Your parents probably blame themselves for his condition.

Dont go anorexic over it, your brother is a fucking retard (no offense)

Be a stronger individual in your family and go to college or just move out and make it on your own

Just dont make the same mistakes your parents did by singling out one child for another.

Noise cancelling headphones would be a must in your house.

He sounds like a knobhead.

Sounds crazy. Pun intended. If you are under your parents custody.. Then write to mental health services. If you are of age, move out.

I sympathise. I wouldn't call my sister ''retarded'' but there is something a little off, worst part though, parents don't want to admit it, so they act like I'm crazy for saying anything. Even my cousin, who is more like a sister to me, suggested my real sister might be mildly autistic, which is what I always suspected. Anyway, the parents always joked about her autistic symptoms, yet allow her to get away with anything. I'm younger but I'm always been the ''mature'' one and peace keeper. We're both adults now, but she's still like a child. we used to be good friends despite that, but she's even more unstable now that she's nothing to do but play on the computer all day. I have went crazy once when i was younger and beat her but due to whatever disorder she apparently has a super low pain tolerance, and started crying and screaming but I didn't notice over my own laughter, until my mom grabbed me off her and chastised me for it. I still feel horrible about that, even though my sister thinks it's funny to beat me in front of her friends, like some sort of animal dominance display, and like typical mentally challenged, doesn't know her own strength. I can handle it though. I feel bad for leaving home when I know she will never, my parents will be stuck with her abuse, but she is the main reason I want to leave home.