Is it normal to only truly care about one or two people?

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I'll start by saying that this isn't some silly relationship post. I don't have some 'crush' or anything like that. I am in a relationship currently with someone I do care about, and for the most part, can trust. But not 100%. Yes, I tell my girlfriend that I love her, but I can never be 100% trusting, or sure that It'll be something that lasts, no matter how many times we tell each other that it will, there's always doubt in my mind.

Now, for the main point; there is one specific person that I care about more than anyone else in this world. And that person is a family member. My niece. A beautiful, sweet, innocent little girl. She is the only one I truly feel that I would defend or protect until I die. She is so incredibly important to me, and I can't really describe why, I don't think I'm really very sure myself. The only time I really feel happy is when I see her smile, it brightens my day and I feel a sense of purpose to my life.

I suppose I'm not even sure what I'm asking here, it's more of a question of 'why do I only ever feel happy when I'm around one person? Am I depressed? Do I have some sort of problem?'

And why can't I trust the other person that I should care about so strongly? It's not like she's ever done me any wrong, I just can't feel happy in any scenario other than the one I described above.

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  • modernism
    9 years ago

    Aw... that's so sweet. I'd say it is normal - you're probably just very selective in who you choose to fully bring into your life. You can't force yourself to care about someone if you truly don't (completely).

    The only problem that might bring up are walls blocking yourself from having certainty in others. Your girlfriend (or any other person remotely close to you) might feel that you're not entirely opening up to them and that they might just be mediocre to you.

    Despite this, nothing is 100%. There's always some sort of degree to which trust can be broken, so I'm not saying go crazy trusting everyone - just try to be a little more open and realize that some people (even if they don't seem to earn your trust completely) can't exactly do so if you've got brick walls blocking them. And it might not be such a bad thing to let them in.

    By the way, not to be weird or anything, but it seems like you'd make a great father one day considering how much you love your niece.

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  • thegypsysailor
    9 years ago

    What makes you think anything is 100% certain in life? I love my wife and she loves me, unequivocally. But will it last? Who can say?
    One should take what one can get and not waste today worrying about what will happen tomorrow; that's just wasting today.
    There are zero guaranties in life, except death.

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