Is it normal to only have sex with your husband once every week/two??

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We've been married about a year and a half, and though we have had ebbs and flows of passionate times, (and when it happens it's HOT) but lately I have to ask for it a lot and get TURNED DOWN!! I finally got him to talk (he's as nervous talking about sex as I am about money) and he says that he's tired, stressed from work, not as confident from working out as much, and just not in the mood as much. At least twice a week, I walk out in lingerie when Jimmy Fallon is on (after he goes off how unfunny he is) and say, "I'll be in bed" and he'll tell me "in a while", and come in an hour later with me passed out, or he'll just pass out. I wish I got it at LEAST a couple times a week. This isn't married sex life, IS IT?? And is it normal for some guys to just have a low libido?

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Based on 13 votes (11 yes)
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  • daveyjones05
    13 years ago

    aussiegirl's sort of right. If he's stressed or tired, the mention of sex won't suddenly flip a switch. Guy's are visual. If you wore your lingerie but jumped on him on the couch instead of going upstairs to wait for him, then he may well respond like a man possessed.

    I'm sure he still finds you just as attractive, but his lack of communication won't help you; however, give it a try (pouncing on him, what harm can it do) and when you are intimate, tell him you want more intimacy. He will be more communicative in the heat of the moment than he will be watching tv.

    Good luck

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  • 8Serene8
    13 years ago

    Sounds like he is making excuses to not have sex. Time to find out what his problem is.

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  • jessicia16
    13 years ago

    try dressing up like a schoolgirl ^___^ like the uniform and socks etc ... your lacking something in your sexual relationship .. and most guys (espically older) dont like to admit their fantacys ... since some women judge them etc ,, but schoolgirl fantacy is guarantee , he will be all over you :D good luck

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  • aussiewolf
    13 years ago

    its probably the stress that causes this. personally i dont think that is "normal" for a marriage because i have been with my husband for 8 years (married 5) and our sex life is still as great as it was when we first met! but i think the difference in our marriage is that we talk to each other about things, we dont hide anything and if there is anything worrying us, we get it out in the open. i cant go two days without sex and if my husband is not in the mood sometimes, i just rape him lol he doesnt mind.
    dont wait for your husband to join you in bed, give him a lap dance, straddle him, kiss him etc. while he is sitting on the couch to get him in the mood. guys arent light switches, they cant just be turned on or off. if he doesnt want sex then the mention of sex isnt going to motivate him.
    he said that he doesnt feel attractive anymore, well make him feel sexy. kiss him everywhere, feel him everywhere, explore his body like you (presumably) used to. make him feel like you want him.
    good luck!

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  • HurrrDurrr
    13 years ago

    He might have low testosterone levels, or it really might be psychological. Or it could be a combination of both. I'd still tell him to get tested for low testosterone. Especially if he used to have a stronger sex drive and this behavioral pattern is new.

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  • theRealDeal
    13 years ago

    Unfortunately YES! My first wife fucked me 26 times in 21/2yrs of marriage. And I left her for it-amoung other things. But when I married wife #2, I messed up and told her, as long as we have sex 1 time a week I'm fine, if it's good. BIG mistake! I stay so horney ALL the time, for 18yrs we've been having sex every Sunday, and sometimes we skip a week, I AM miserable! I don't know what to do. Lord knows I love this woman, and I try so hard to be the best lover I can be-for her! She absolutely puts NOTHING into our sex life. I getting to the point of where I was 19yrs ago with wife#1. yes, will someone tell us what to do!

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