Is it normal to only have feelings for the same girl for 4 years?

In my early teens, I never really had a "Crush" or "Liked" any girls, until one day...

A girl transferred to my school, where we later bonded. We had a jolly time, texting the afternoon away and spending approximately 40 minutes with each other a day (What do you expect a dumb, young teen to do?). All was well until a variable interfered with our relationship (Not specifying for personal reasons) and I reacted poorly. I got depressed, I said terrible things to her, and I tried to push her away (Figuratively). Overall, I acted like a psychopath. We didn't communicate much after the incident.

It took me months to recover from my depression and selfish thoughts, but I eventually got my act together and apologized to her for my behavior. She forgave me with little to no hard feelings. We still don't interact much (In fact, we exchange less than 6 words a year). I like to think back to relationship and wonder how I could have handled the situation better, but there's nothing I can do now.

With the apology, the remorse left, but not my feelings for her. I never had a crush on anyone before her or anyone else after her. I could tell by her new boyfriend(s) that she has moved on, but it seems as if I can't. Most people move on after a month or two, but here I am, three years later, still thinking about how I let the most beautiful girl I have ever seen escape me.

I'm not trying to get her back. I am questioning if I have some issues.

So, is it normal to only have feeling for the same girl for 4 years?

Totally 32
Kind of... 9
I dunno, depends 3
No 5
Dude, go see a doctor 5
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Comments ( 11 )
  • ilovetoiletrolls

    Because you haven't tried to date anyone else? You should really try to date at least once a month. Try casual dating or join websites where you meet people, I'm SURE there's someone else.

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    • YourNeighborhoodWhiteGuy

      I haven't tried sites yet... I would rather get over her myself instead of replacing her, you know?

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  • Fall_leaves

    Four years is a long time if you haven't stayed close these past years. Did she know you had feelings for her?

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    • YourNeighborhoodWhiteGuy

      Probably too many, that was the first time I shed a tear in public. My adolescent self did not learn the benefits of hiding emotions from others.

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      • Fall_leaves

        Eh, sometimes it's good to let people know how you're feeling. Have you dated anyone at all after her? You're missing out on love and good experiences with people even if nothing comes out of those relationships

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  • Shackleford96

    "We still don't interact much (In fact, we exchange less than 6 words a year)."

    ^the way you worded that sounds very obsessive, I hope you don't actually count...

    Anyway, you have to realize at some point that she's not the one for you. It's not easy, I know. I've done things in relationships when I was younger that I regretted and thought maybe I could have done something different...

    Sooner or later though, you have to focus on you and what will make you happy. Once you start developing that happiness for yourself, then you can pursue happiness with someone else.

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    • YourNeighborhoodWhiteGuy

      My apologies, the six words was an exaggeration. The word fact is inappropriately used.

      Trust me, I'm happy, I just don't develop feelings for other girls. It seems a bit childish when I look at it from a third person perspective, but that's just the way it is.

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  • KeepsakeDoll

    You're just feeling regret combined with nostalgia.

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  • VirgilManly

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6-oHYYaw9jA

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  • searchy

    Invite her into your basement and then...do things.

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    • YourNeighborhoodWhiteGuy

      I'm pretty sure I would earn myself a restraining order...

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