Is it normal to only be shy around your significant other?

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Let me start with an example: when I first met my current boyfriend, I had no trouble talking to him. It was easy and effortless-I was catty, funny, quick-witted and smart.
Once we started dating, all of a sudden I became shy. I couldn't think of anything to say, every debate we get into he wins because my brain just doesn't work. This happens every time I date someone.

I don't know why I can be cool and funny when we're not dating and then all of a sudden turn into this timid useless stupid lump as soon as we decide to go exclusive. Anyone have insight?

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  • mumbum
    13 years ago

    I am exactly the same!! It sucks, doesn't it!!! We are both too self conscious...

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  • wreckd
    13 years ago

    Yupp, vulnerability. You worked your way into the relationship and now you can't deliver. It happens. Try to relax. I find when I am well relaxed, I can be myself. Try yoga.

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  • ravensuichiro
    13 years ago

    i agree coz i've been there too..
    maybe you feel vulnerable now because there is the connection...maybe you just gotta let your guard down a little bit and enjoy the relationship...its good to find out if your boyfriend really loves you because he doesn't bother of the "you" that you were and who you are now..

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  • YumInsanity
    12 years ago

    They're all completely wrong and lying, don't listen to them. The problem with you is that your brain doesn't want you in a relationship, and is subconciously shutting down all positive aspects of your personality when you're around your obviously unsuitable partner. Your body wants you to be a slut basically. Don't fight it

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