Is it normal to only be attracted to hot women?

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I am only attracted to hot women but I am an average looking guy.This really sucks because the older I get the more picky I have become. I have realized that at this point in life I have to either settle for an average looking female or be single. I recently did find a hot chick but she was 23 and I was 40 so that only lasted a few months. Now that I had a taste of what i really am attracted to I find it even harder to go back to an average chick. The main reason for me being so picky and that I really want a woman that I am attracted to is because without the physical attraction I can not be affectionate. I like holding hands and always kissing on my girl but with the average chicks its just not there. I have fun with them and lived with one for 5 years but when there is no affection the woman isn't going to be happy. I have asked all of my friends and about %50 percent are attracted to their ladies. the ones that are not tell me to keep the average one around cause she is a good girl but find I hot side chick to get it in with. Since i don't cheat I'm stuck. I know this isn't normal but had to put it out there.

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  • flexte
    9 years ago

    Wow bringing back to life an old thread. 68% of the us population is FAT. So lets Rule them out as "hot". the point was trying to get at years ago when i posted this was I wish I was attracted to a wider range of woman. When I was younger it wasn't an issue because most women my age were not fat and I lived near NY so there was a diversity of women. I rarely date Black women because they just aren't attractive in my area. White women over 30 look beat to hell for the most part because they don't age well. Hispanic women are pretty much ALL fat in my area and have way too many kids. I just don't see how a guy can date a fat ugly woman and at the same time find any of these women in the same category http://www.maxim.com/hot100/2013. Anyway its a curse cause I wold love to have that wide spectrum when choosing who I ma attracted to. Hate or Not less than 1% of the population are hot and and about 10% are good looking.20% are date or wife material. This is based off of looks alone.I only dated one hot woman 2 very pretty and 4 average. Anyway just figured I would feed the trolls.

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  • MissClaire
    12 years ago

    Well, I guess, hmmmm - this is tough.
    If you are hell-bent that an average looking women is not good enough, then unfortunately, your gonna have to start making a lot of money OR hit the gym really freaken hard.Depending if your looking for love forget the money part.
    Good looking women are just as picky as you are so, I mean... .I'm probably telling you what you already know. Good looking women have to put ALOT of effort into their looks, which takes alot of determination and hard work, they are expecting the same from their partner - USUALLY.
    As a woman who is 26 and dating (long term, we have a house together etc) a 37 year old, I understand this. It is important that you are physically attracted to your sig other because it isnt fair to play them along, like you have stated. If I were to find out that my man was cheating or didnt find me attractive, I would leave, as I am doing no one a favor by staying in the relationship.
    You can meet a lot of good looking women at the gym too, at the same time, you can start to feel better about yourself... more confident to approach etc. Whitten your teeth, do some man-scaping, try your best to make yourself feel the best you can be and to attract someone that is the same way.
    The thing is, if you dont have things in common like looking good, eating right, exercising, etc.... it wont last so you might want to look at altering your lifestyle a bit.
    I'm of course, not sure what you look like or what your habits are re: health and grooming - so forgive me if you do all of this already. You know that a hot girl has all of these habits, so make it common grounds :)
    Im in no way telling you not to be yourself, but you might need to alter things in order to get what your looking for is all.

    Good luck,
    thanks for not being a cheater :) Appreciated :)

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    • flexte
      12 years ago

      Check out my profile picture. I workout daily and own a fitness studio. I think basically I just have to find a cute one that I am somewhat attracted to. Thanks for the response.

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      • MissClaire
        12 years ago

        no problem.
        Ok! So you obviously have the workouts and the grooming under control lol. I dont see why you wouldnt have your pick of a beautiful woman - perhaps your just not frequenting the right hang outs? Im kinda at a lost now, not sure what to recommend lol. Where do models hang out....... bookstores are usually pretty good, happening night club, I'm not sure but I hope you have good luck :)
        Anyone have any ideas where models hang out?

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        • flexte
          12 years ago

          It comes down to where i live. MOst of teh more attractive women live in NY, ATl, Texas ect... I live near philly which is rated the top ugliest city year after yer.

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          • MissClaire
            12 years ago

            Wow, well you may need to move - but you probably already have thought of that.
            Maybe you should take a leave of absence from your job and go somewhere amazing - that way you can always come back to your job if it doesnt work out. I hear Brazil is full of hotties, or you can go somewhere else in the United States like you suggested. Do some sort of temp work or personal training work - you never know.
            You might need to make some major alterations in your life to find happiness. Dont forget to enjoy yourself along the way. Not to be corney but if you truely believe that you will find her, and you dont focus on the 'never' or the negative, you will find someone who you feel true with. Just be willing to do what it takes and the possibilities are endless. So corney, I know, I know.

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            • flexte
              12 years ago

              I go out of the country often and do run into very beautiful woman but knowing that they come form a impoverished it makes it even more difficult to know their motives. Out here at least i know if they have money or not and that's not why they are with me. Moving is out of the question because my business is established here. after a few months of deciding a realize that i am just way too picky and will have to learn to settle for an average looking woman that doesn't mind my lack of affection. I already have one that fits that category so i guess i have to realize its jut not going to happen at this point in my life. on the other hand if i were 30 again i would have hope. thanks for the responses.

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  • flutterhigh
    12 years ago

    I'm only attracted to people I find attractive, IIN? :S

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    • flexte
      12 years ago

      close but not really. I agree with the smartass comment cause basically that is what it sounds like. the only problem with that statement is my definition of hot is universal and if i could post pics it would clear that confusion up.

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      • flutterhigh
        12 years ago

        I know what you meant; I was being a dick.

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        • flexte
          12 years ago

          nice to know you know exactly what you are.

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  • Boredbastard
    12 years ago

    don't be a sexist.

    ...this sounds awfully lot like that one movie...

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    • flexte
      12 years ago

      yea the movie Shallow Hal. though it was a funny movie and its close to my situation. It seems there are a lot of young kids on here from other stories I have read. It seems you like most others are choosing words that don't fit. Sexist? since when did i say i don't like woman and think they are beneath me? women are the ones that give birth they are the ones that carry the child. they should be treated like queens and nothing less. I just cannot find my queen because I am so damn picky and hate it. I like what i like but wish i had a broader scope.

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      • Boredbastard
        12 years ago

        fine :o
        let's not use any of my fancy words, then!

        yeah, bad choice.
        well fuck it.

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  • NothingxCrazy
    12 years ago

    What is hot to you might not be hot to another guy. You have standards like anyone else. This is normal.

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    • flexte
      12 years ago

      doesn't answer the question but your kinds right. pretty and cute are personal preferences but Hot is universal.

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      • joybird
        12 years ago

        Could I ask why your relationship with the 'hot' chick only lasted a few months? Was it coz you two had nothing in common with the age difference?

        Without being conceited, I suppose I would be considered 'hot'. For example, if I go into the pub on my own, I doubt the bar staff would have my drink ready before at least one man was beside me offering to pay for it.

        HOWEVER!!! The last thing I want from my partner is to be affectionate with me, in public especially. I'd think his motives were to claim me as his possession. So it wouldn't be happening!

        Can I just tell you that the most handsome man I've ever known is short, fat, bald and looks about 20 years older than me but if I could bottle his charisma I'd be a multi-millionaire :o)

        You have to have something special to attract the hot women and even the average ones can look great with a little makeover!
        Good luck, I wouldn't worry too much though coz women hate desperation.

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        • flexte
          12 years ago

          it only lasted that long because we had different personalities

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  • ymii
    12 years ago

    wow this actually might be the stupidest question ive ever heard

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    • flexte
      12 years ago

      and this is the most informative response i have received.

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  • TyLee
    12 years ago

    Long story short you and all of your friends suck. You should just keep your stupidity off of iin from now on. Do us all a favor.

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  • seakelp
    9 years ago

    Is it normal to only be attracted to individuals I find attractive?

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  • 1000yrVampireKing
    11 years ago

    you have standards

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  • la_uva_mojada
    11 years ago

    By your 40's i would think you would have learned the value of inner beauty vs outer beauty. what if u find someone to fit ur standards and when she ages or has a baby, her looks go downhil? divorce her?

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    • flexte
      11 years ago

      Wow forgot all about this thread. .I workout to hard to keep myself in shape and expect the same from my partner. You may not be able to stop the grey hair and wrinkles but you can keep your body tight. all I hear is excuses from fat sloppy women but the ones in gym have full time jobs and kids and still find a way to get it in. most of my female friends are overweight and they know how I feel the reason i hang with them is because they are fun , nice and we share salsa dancing as a common interest. so yes the inside must be the same as the outside but one or the other doesn't do it. at 43 yrs old I have learned one thing. I need to have something in common with my mate and seeing as though most of my interest are physical ie.. working out, biking, martial arts I would hope to find the complete package. BTW i figured out the biggest problem is my location.once I move down south I wont have this issue.

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  • AnonymousCanada
    12 years ago

    thats like saying "IIN to only like good tasting food?"

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    • flexte
      12 years ago

      Think about this idiot. Maybe .01% of the people on the planet are "hot" yet lot mpre than that are married or in a relationship. So there are a lot of fat and ugly people that looks don't matter too.

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  • Idontpulloutmycouchdoes
    12 years ago

    Why dont u try and get in good physical shape and thwn you can have your pick

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    • flexte
      12 years ago

      haha i have a pic posted of what i look like unlike the losers on this site. i'm in good shape, just dont have the look to get the ones im attracted to.

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  • bananaface
    12 years ago

    Well If you aren't attracted to them then you're not going to find them hot, are you?

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