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A man has asked me out and I'm not sure I'm attracted to him. Do I go and see how it goes? What if I'm instincts are right ?
I've never had a boyfriend before so I'm not sure what to do :( I'm not sure I'm ready or want anyone right now. But my parents are really excited . I'm just not.
What is wrong with me?
I agree with gypsy but I also feel like if you wanted a date with him or to entertain the idea of it "to see how it goes" ................ you would know .
Too many people make judgements of others without taking the time to get to know a person. This only leads to them depriving themselves of possibly making a lifelong friend or more.
I can't see why you wouldn't want to go out with someone (providing they're no stalker or just plain crazy) who is interested in YOU.
What have you got to lose?
Yes we are humans who judge others. I'm not judging him. I am going to go to see how it goes but it's like I almost know.
1. Because I don't realy fancy him. I've met him before.
2. I don't really want a boyfriend right now I'm not ready.
And 3. I thought I'd just walk into someone one day and I'd just click with them. I've done this a few times I've been into guys but nothing ever came of it and now someone is into me I'm not even excited.
We have to be somewhat attracted to them no?
So how many dates do I go on?
I think that going on dates with an ulterior motive is wrong. You should go on a date to have fun with someone and to get to know them better. IMO it shouldn't be a prologue for determining whether the person will become a lover, or spouse.
If you enjoy this guy's company, then go on many dates; if you don't,then one should be sufficient.
Unfortunately, it sounds as if you've really already made up your mind that you don't 'fancy' him, so the poor bugger hasn't got a shot in hell of even becoming your friend.
A man who asks a woman out is rarely going to be a suitable friend. If you continue seeing someone like that it only ends in them feeling lead on, texting you all the time, not wanting to leave you alone, being jealous of your love life etc. Dates rarely turn into real friendships. She could go out with him if its like to do something they both have an interest in, but a dinner date I don't think is a good idea.
The only thing I'll say is, in regards to "not feeling ready right now", I think that's normal.
I haven't been in a ton of relationships so I'm no expert but I think with any big changes in your life you never feel 100% ready.
& really, dating isn't necessarily a huge commitment anyway so try not to let that hold you back. Save it for the wedding ; )
I mean you have to have a first boyfriend somewhere, so if you want to have it you probably want to try this relationship out; maybe you'll discover something new, maybe it won't work out who knows.
It's your decision to make. You got this :D
Of course you have to be attracted to someone to want to be with them. Why don't you trust your instincts? It is possible though that you might become attracted to someone that you weren't at first, so you could give someone a try for a few dates. But do you really have the time to waste spending evenings with men you don't like when you could be out doing something you like where you could naturally meet someone who you do like.